Hi April,
I am praying for all of you, I know it is stressful and difficult for
everyone there.
Hugs and blessings,
Virgie and Lady Hoshi
----- Original Message -----
From: "April Stahl" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Wednesday, April 30, 2008 8:55 AM
Subject: Re: Parents
> Well, things are getting more and more interesting around here. Dave has
> been sick. Dad has been really super-forgetful and angry. Penny wants
> the car.
> Okay, today the Alzheimers Foundation is coming for a home assessment.
> Friday the care giver consultation group comes, and next week the passport
> application
> people come. Penny goes back to Springfield on May 5. Mama Jean is
> filing for divorce and is giving dad the car he rants and raves about. He
> fixates
> on her bleep worthless son on whom she dotes, he says. Her son, in
> reality, has alzheimers disease himself and bad diabetes and lives with
> his son. Her
> grand daughter finally convinced her that she didn't need the car and that
> it would give dad a feeling that he got something out of this whole mess.
> She's
> right. Mama Jean can't really afford the gas and insurance and probably
> won't drive much if she keeps it. Her diseases are really causing her
> problems
> now. Dad has stopped wandering so much and is less agitated at night but
> has spels of hot anger and depression during the day that come as quickly
> as they
> go. He kept giving me fifty dollar bills today saying he knew there was
> something he wanted to give me out of his wallet but he couldn't remember
> what
> it was. I have them all put away and won't touch them. Penny is a sound
> sleeper, sleeps with the tv on and her oxygen concentrater runs all night.
> She
> thinks she's gonna stay here for 100 dollars a month, run a car, and the
> whole shabang on her SSI pension. She has TIA's and she wants to sleep in
> the
> basement so she can have her privacy, yet I'm the one who wakes up with
> dad in the night because David can't hear, she's doped up on sleeping
> pills etc.
> She had the nerve to tease me about my snoring when I fell asleep in the
> chair tonight. Aint life grand? The fun just begins.
>
> There is so much I can say, but i know this. I love my husband. He's a
> smart man and he has given me some great ideas. I'm not so sure it is my
> dad that
> is the big stress factor here, but Penny. Penny is really nice and I
> believe she has tried to change, but without Christ as the center of her
> life, it
> aint gonna happen. So here I am, journalling of sorts, but sharing with
> the ones I love most. Feel free to write.
>
> Dad is starting to get fussy about the house because he is a neatnick, and
> Penny is on my case about getting somebody to come in to clean the house.
> Our house isn't dirty, it is just cluttered. We had to move massive
> amounts of stuff before he came and I wasn't release to work yet, so I
> couldn't do a lot of lifting.
>
> Dad is lost today. Says he has nowhere to go and doesn't know what to do.
> We reassure him that he is all right with us, but he isn't sure where he
> wans to go. So on and on the explanations go. I'm trying really hard to
> trust my sister, but I am worried about her health, too, and what
> liabilities Dave and I will face if something goes wrong with her. Oh, if
> you could just continue to pray for Dave and me, we'd appreciate it so
> much.
>
> Where does my dad stand with God? I don't really know. Sometimes he
> seems as if he believes and sometimes he doesn't. Dad's brother is a
> believer though and his daughter. Penny and Dad are both surrounded by
> Christians, so we'll see what happens. I keep holding on to the truth
> that God is in control, but then I keep stressing out privately so nobody
> will see. Where is my faith here? Why do I do this?
>
> Well, now ya have it.
> Thanks for listening.
> April Stahl
> EVERYBODY WINS!
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> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "VIRGIE UNDERWOOD" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Friday, April 25, 2008 9:48 PM
> Subject: Re: Parents
>
>
>> April,
>> I am praying for you and your whole family. Give it to God and ask for
>> His help.
>>
>> Hugs and blessings,
>>
>> Virgie and Lady Hoshi
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "April Stahl" <[log in to unmask]>
>> To: <[log in to unmask]>
>> Sent: Thursday, April 24, 2008 9:53 PM
>> Subject: Re: Parents
>>
>>
>> Mom and dad have been married for 7 years. Mom is 90 years old, and dad
>> is 80 years old. Dad fell from a three-story building about 11 years ago
>> leaving him with a nearly fatal brain injury. His wife has coached him
>> daily giving him simple directions to do things. His memory is nearly
>> gone. Certain things bring the right answers, but she uses oxygen 24/7.
>> Dad has run all of her family and friends away because he glares a them
>> for no uncertain reason. He doesn't like anybody on her side of the
>> family and has always sid that ifg something happens to her, he wants to
>> be in Ohio where his girls are.
>>
>> When he arrived at our house, he couldn't remember me, he got my sister
>> and I mixed up all week end and stillt hought Dave was my care-taker, not
>> my husband and treated him accordingly till we convinced him that he is
>> jmy husband. He suffers from dimentia related to the brain injury and
>> his wife can no longer cope. She says there are no adult day care
>> centers in Colville where they live. So she brought him to his own
>> family who will love and care for him. He finally understands that he
>> will need a power of attorney and hs given me that privilege. My older
>> sister wants to move in with us to helop take care of hijm. We're taking
>> that step slowly. We have a doctor's appointment tomorrow wso he can
>> meet his new doctor while his wife is still with us to give backgroujnd
>> that I don't have.
>>
>> He had loaded some guns while living with her and had said from time to
>> time that the best solution was to kill them both. Momk took away the
>> guns and is bringing us here so she can rest.
>>
>> That's all for now.
>>
>>
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: April Stahl
>> To: [log in to unmask]
>> Sent: Thursday, April 24, 2008 8:24 PM
>> Subject: Parents
>>
>>
>> My mom will be leaving soon. Her plane leaves on Saturday. My older
>> sister, the only one left besides myself, will comen tomorow and spend
>> several days with us while we enroll Dad in to an adult DayCare center.
>> We have a doctor's appointment to set Dad up with our family doctor
>> tomorrow. My sister's name is Penny. Funny, our female kitty's name is
>> also Penny. Anyway, she has always kind of pushed me around, and it will
>> be interesting to see how this all works. Please pray for us that wqe
>> get the right paperwork done to care for Dad.
>>
>> Thanksl. I have to help Dave. I'll write more later.
>>
>>
>> April Stahl
>> EVERYBODY WINS!
>> PLEASE VISIT MY POWER MALL AT:
>> http://www.mypowermall.com/Biz/Home/5170
>>
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