Matt and Phil:

Jesus says he hates divorce.  Stuff like you mentioned is the reason He
does.  Even when there is cause, it still brings about much pain for
everyone involved.

JulieMelton
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Keep smiling!


----- Original Message -----
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, January 17, 2004 7:41 PM
Subject: Re: watching divorce destroy


> Matt,
>
> I know the feeling.  I watched my older sister go through a divorce.  Her
> husband was my best friend when I was growing up and I still love him very
> much.  Fortunately, their children were grown.  I say fortunately, that is
> a
> poor choice of words.  The two children, although grown and married, one
> having two children of his own and serving as an overseas missionary, have
> suffered more than I ever dreamed.  We often think it is the little ones
> who
> suffer but the adult children suffer, too, and sometimes even more.  My
> two
> grandsons, ages 8 and four, are watching my daughter and her husband
> divorce.  The get sick to their stomach for no reason and the minute their
> mom, or dad, shows up, their stomach is fine.  The older one has a rash.
> We
> took him to the doctor and they can find no reason for it.  It is nothing
> but the wages of sin in these two cases.  Actually, my sister was at
> fault.
> To be perfectly truthful, she didn't like sex.  Of course, her husband
> did.
> He tried from the first year they were married to get her to go to a
> counselor with him and she would not do it.  He began having affairs and
> finally, after 28 years, he left her.  He was a pastor and later an Army
> chaplain for 20 years, as all this was going on.  Super sad.
>
> Phil.
>