Kathy,
Hopefully this new approach will help. I think too many times kids are
quickly medicated for such, but yawl have put in your time of working it
out various ways with limited success and could well be an answer for him.
I can't imagine the difficulty and roller coaster of having him be very
helpful and sensitive to family time yet be the opposite sometimes, as well
the suffering grades. It has got to be very tough for you and Greg, and
Chris too as I'm sure he wonders why it is this way, and what drives him as
such. Surely he feels a sense of failure when his new found fads only last
a week or two and he is off to something else. .
Brad
At 01/03/2004 on Saturday, you wrote:
>Hey Everybody,
>Since the list seems rather quiet right now, I thought that I'd just try
>to dash off a quick note to let you know how we are doing with Chris. You
>all are such wonderful prayer warriors on our behalf and I [m so glad
>that you are there.
>Life with Chris has been kind of like a roller coaster this fall with
>lots of ups and downs and twists and turns. I think that we are at a
>level point right now, but I'm always braced for the next surprise. In
>school, Chris is failing almost all of his classes due to lack of
>motivation on his part. The psychologist that we have been seeing is
>convinced that Chris has A.D.H.D., which he says is more of a
>motivational problem than an attention problem so we are now working on
>getting in to see a psychiatrist to try chris on one month of medication
>to see if that helps. The interesting thing is that this is completely
>the opposit of what the neuropsychologist said. We've been able to talk
>to the psychiatrist some and explain that we are being given mixed
>information on what chris's real problems are so he has suggested acting
>as a consultant for us first. We'll just have to see. We are concerned at
>times that the psychologist is siding too strongly with Chris and not
>remaining objective so we are understandably cautious. The little girl
>that I babysit used to see this psychiatrist for her medication and her
>grandmother has assured me that this particular psychiatrist is very
>conservative in his treatment. I hope so. I don't feel like borrowing
>trouble if I don't have too. Of course, Greg and I both know that Chris's
>main problem is spiritual, but until he is ready to deal with that, we at
>least have to address the physical.
>If I could use one word to describe Chris right now, it would be drifter.
>He just flits from thing to thing with little interest or motivation to
>achieve or succeed. Right now he is trying to be a vegetarian. Let's see
>his intense exercise program lasted about two weeks. His football career
>lasted five days. Well, we'll see about this one too.
>He has been pretty helpful around the house throughout Christmas vacation
>though. I should give credit where credit is due. He practically put up
>and took down the Christmas tree all by himself. Caleb and I helped, but
>everyone else was either too busy with other stuff or couldn't work on
>Chris's time schedule. I know that this bothered him a lot because the
>family is growing up and out and he can't hold on to the way things were
>when he was younger. He's feeling that loss pretty keenly.
>I did make Chris a batch of gingerbread dough and he made a complete
>gingerbread community this year, complete with a car and a special smily
>face for Caleb. I thought that we were going to get gingerbread aliens
>this year, but I guess that he was feeling more traditional.
>Anyway, thanks for praying everybody. It is helping all of us cope.
>God bless,
>Kathy
>
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