Well, things are getting more and more interesting around here.  Dave has 
been sick.  Dad has been really super-forgetful and angry.  Penny wants the 
car.
Okay, today the Alzheimers Foundation is coming for a home assessment. 
Friday the care giver consultation group comes, and next week the passport 
application
people come.  Penny goes back to Springfield on May 5.  Mama Jean is filing 
for divorce and is giving dad the car he rants and raves about.  He fixates
on her bleep worthless son on whom she dotes, he says.  Her son, in reality, 
has alzheimers disease himself and bad diabetes and lives with his son.  Her
grand daughter finally convinced her that she didn't need the car and that 
it would give dad a feeling that he got something out of this whole mess. 
She's
right.  Mama Jean can't really afford the gas and insurance and probably 
won't drive much if she keeps it.  Her diseases are really causing her 
problems
now.  Dad has stopped wandering so much and is less agitated at night but 
has spels of hot anger and depression during the day that come as quickly as 
they
go.  He kept giving me fifty dollar bills today saying he knew there was 
something he wanted to give me out of his wallet but he couldn't remember 
what
it was.  I have them all put away and won't touch them.  Penny is a sound 
sleeper, sleeps with the tv on and her oxygen concentrater runs all night. 
She
thinks she's gonna stay here for 100 dollars a month, run a car, and the 
whole shabang on her SSI pension.  She has TIA's and she wants to sleep in 
the
basement so she can have her privacy, yet I'm the one who wakes up with dad 
in the night because David can't hear, she's doped up on sleeping pills etc.
She had the nerve to tease me about my snoring when I fell asleep in the 
chair tonight.  Aint life grand?  The fun just begins.

There is so much I can say, but i know this.  I love my husband.  He's a 
smart man and he has given me some great ideas.  I'm not so sure it is my 
dad that
is the big stress factor here, but Penny.  Penny is really nice and I 
believe she has tried to change, but without Christ as the center of her 
life, it
aint gonna happen.  So here I am, journalling of sorts, but sharing with the 
ones I love most.  Feel free to write.

Dad is starting to get fussy about the house because he is a neatnick, and 
Penny is on my case about getting somebody to come in to clean the house. 
Our house isn't dirty, it is just cluttered.  We had to move massive amounts 
of stuff before he came and I wasn't release to work yet, so I couldn't do a 
lot of lifting.

Dad is lost today.  Says he has nowhere to go and doesn't know what to do. 
We reassure him that he is all right with us, but he isn't sure where he 
wans to go.  So on and on the explanations go.  I'm trying really hard to 
trust my sister, but I am worried about her health, too, and what 
liabilities Dave and I will face if something goes wrong with her.  Oh, if 
you could just continue to pray for Dave and me, we'd appreciate it so much.

Where does my dad stand with God?  I don't really know.  Sometimes he seems 
as if he believes and sometimes he doesn't.  Dad's brother is a believer 
though and his daughter.  Penny and Dad are both surrounded by Christians, 
so we'll see what happens.  I keep holding on to the truth that God is in 
control, but then I keep stressing out privately so nobody will see.  Where 
is my faith here?  Why do I do this?

Well, now ya have it.
Thanks for listening.
 April Stahl
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "VIRGIE UNDERWOOD" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, April 25, 2008 9:48 PM
Subject: Re: Parents


> April,
> I am praying for you and your whole family.  Give it to God and ask for 
> His help.
>
> Hugs and blessings,
>
> Virgie and Lady Hoshi
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "April Stahl" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Thursday, April 24, 2008 9:53 PM
> Subject: Re: Parents
>
>
> Mom and dad have been married for 7 years.  Mom is 90 years old, and dad 
> is 80 years old.  Dad fell from a three-story building about 11 years ago 
> leaving him with a nearly fatal brain injury.  His wife has coached him 
> daily giving him simple directions to do things.  His memory is nearly 
> gone. Certain things bring the right answers, but she uses oxygen 24/7. 
> Dad has run all of her family and friends away because he glares a them 
> for no uncertain reason.  He doesn't like anybody on her side of the 
> family and has always sid that ifg something happens to her, he wants to 
> be in Ohio where his girls are.
>
> When he arrived at our house, he couldn't remember me, he got my sister 
> and I mixed up all week end and stillt hought Dave was my care-taker, not 
> my husband and treated him accordingly till we convinced him that he is 
> jmy husband.  He suffers from dimentia related to the brain injury and his 
> wife can no longer cope.  She says there are no adult day care centers in 
> Colville where they live.  So she brought him to his own family who will 
> love and care for him.  He finally understands that he will need a power 
> of attorney and hs given me that privilege.  My older sister wants to move 
> in with us to helop take care of hijm.  We're taking that step slowly.  We 
> have a doctor's appointment tomorrow wso he can meet his new doctor while 
> his wife is still with us to give backgroujnd that I don't have.
>
> He had loaded some guns while living with her and had said from time to 
> time that the best solution was to kill them both.  Momk took away the 
> guns and is bringing us here so she  can rest.
>
> That's all for now.
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
>  From: April Stahl
>  To: [log in to unmask]
>  Sent: Thursday, April 24, 2008 8:24 PM
>  Subject: Parents
>
>
>  My mom will be leaving soon.  Her plane leaves on Saturday.  My older 
> sister, the only one left besides myself, will comen tomorow and spend 
> several days with us while we enroll Dad in to an adult DayCare center. 
> We have a doctor's appointment to set Dad up with our family doctor 
> tomorrow. My sister's name is Penny.  Funny, our female kitty's name is 
> also Penny. Anyway, she has always kind of pushed me around, and it will 
> be interesting to see how this all works.  Please pray for us that wqe get 
> the right paperwork done to care for Dad.
>
>  Thanksl.  I have to help Dave.  I'll write more later.
>
>
>  April Stahl
>  EVERYBODY WINS!
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>