Thank you so much for your support.  I just will have to trust God will turn
things around for the better ass soon as I would like.  I know he will but
how soon is the question? I get so tired at times.  It is hard not to sink
to his level when arguing.  He loves to bate me and watch me go into
emotional meltdown.  This surge of emotions causes me to have horrible
headaches the day after such an argument.  I had to go to work today after
such an argument yesterday.  I told him I was sick and he said he was going
to clean up the yard.  and he would return in half an hour.  He was suppose
to help me take the dog to the vet to have the vet look at her broken leg.
He left and failed to come home for hours.  I was so sick I couldn't even
look for him.  I barely got home from work.  I swear if I don't learn to
control my own emotions concerning our issues I shall give myself a stroke
or something.  I must go to the doctor soon, and I hate them, as these
headaches may be a sign of high blood pressure. Sometimes I think he just
doesn't care at all what happens to either of us and that hurts.
----- Original Message -----
From: MV <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, January 19, 2006 4:14 AM
Subject: Re: A question about how to talk to Chris


> Angel,
>
> Sorry to hear about your husband's worsening condition, that has got to be
> terribly difficult. As well your son's behavior. Perhaps those times of
> being spoken to properly  and your positive response to that will show him
> by experience how much more pleasant things can be. The leverage is been
> removed or reduced though society and law for a parent to be able to
> properly discipline or raise kids. So much disrespect is among  kids today
> compared to years ago they grow up not knowing any differently watching
> their peers get away with it. For most of us, if we spoke a cross word to
> one of our parents growing up we'd have gotten a "what for" somehow and
> would have known it was coming the minute we spewed it out of our mouth.
>  From that leverage came the threshold of what you could get away with,
and
> ability to build positive relationships. It is very difficult to get that
> leverage back once it is turned backwards, but with God you don't know how
> he can turn it around at any time. With dad being  unable to perform his
> role as parent, that unfortunately leaves you with both, at times being
the
> strong bold one, and yet being the compassionate and soft spoken one.
>
> Brad