Hey Jen,
         First of all, I'm sorry that you are dealing with an inflexible
pastor.  I don't see what difference it makes to him whether the cerimony
is big or small, before or after the civil cerimony.  I suppose that he is
standing on something for theological reasons, but I have no clue what that
would be.  It seems to me that you are left with three options:  switch
pastors, move the wedding up,  or leave things as they are and trust God
for a miracle.  As a child of God, the one option that you don't have, is
to move in together.  If you begin your marriage by  compromising your
principles  on something that is truly small in the grand scheme of things,
how can you be trusted for the bigger ones.  Believe me, the one thing that
I am learning about our heavenly Father is that he is extremely creative in
the solution department.  We often miss it because we get so stuck in
thinking that the only solutions available to us are the ones that we can
see and we shut the door on His creativity.  This is a test.  This is only
a test.  The question is, will you trust Him and wait for His solution and
timing or will you continue to see with earthly eyes only what is
possible.  Good luck on your adventure.  He is faithful.  Your task is to
remain patient and at peace!  GRIN!
Kathy



At 05:17 PM 7/18/2005, you wrote:
>Hi all.  As most of you know, i am getting married in november.  I found out
>today from work that they want me to transfer in the beginning of august.  I
>can't tell them i won't transfer then because it is the end of our fiscal
>year august 31 and i could forfit my job.  Problem is though, that my
>fiancee and I decided that to save money... if i had to move in september or
>october we would just live together until the wedding.  We both don't really
>like the idea but it's like we have no choice.  I don't know what to do.
>I'm so confused... i don't know what is right and wrong.  Both my fiancee
>and I are born-again Christians, we will in no way have sex before marriage
>so if we made/make that pledge to god is living together before marriage a
>sin?  Is it wrong?  And what do i do if it is?  I know of other christian
>couples who have lived together before marriage.  I am just so scattered
>right now.  Please pray for clarity for me?  And above all, pray Gods will
>be done.
>I love you all.
>Jenifer Barr.
>When the trumpet blows... I'm outta here!
>AIM: jenibear1998
>msn
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