HI Angel,
I didn't have a problem with him earning the privilage to  drive.  He
really went through a lot of hoops to get to the point of having a license
and many on this list will tell you.  Chris and we, have been an on going
situation, but now, he has also lost the privilage and will have to gain it
back for himself when he is an adult.  By the way, we weren't paying for
anything.  He had to pay for drivers ed, and insurance and, if he had
gotten a pictured license, he would have had to pay for that too, so,
except for some anxiety and agrivation, we haven't put much else on the
line for him in this direction.
Kathy


At 02:56 AM 7/21/2005, you wrote:
>My son is 15.  I did a drug test last month and found he had been smoking
>pot and as I don't even permit cigarette smoking or gum chewing I said
>because he lied to me concerning this  I said I couldn't trust him.   as
>driving is  a privilege I told him straight up that as I couldn't trust him
>and he wasn't responsible enough he wouldn't have a license at all or a car
>till he leaves my house or turns 18 whichever comes first.  My question is
>this why are you paying fir anything?  Why is he driving at all.  He doesn't
>have to you know.  I am blind and I certainly don't need a car.  My daughter
>is 30 and never did learn to drive.  She just never found the need.
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Wednesday, July 20, 2005 2:24 PM
>Subject: Busted again!
>
>
> > Hi guys,
> >         Notice how I didn't even need to put a name in the subject line
>this
> > time.  You guys quickly figured out what's up again.  Yep, Chris is having
> > his license suspended after a week.  One day after having his license, the
> > same day that he appeared in court, we learned that he took a bunch of
>kids
> > to the movies.  In Maine, your first drivers license is a provisional
> > license.The regulations are that you can only drive other family members
> > around and so on and so forth.  Needless to say, none of those kids were
> > related to Chris.  We gave him a warning and we made sure that his girl
> > friend's parents also new about the restrictions on his
> > license.  Yesterday, Chris had finally paid us enough so that he could get
> > insured and drive independently.  Greg and I have stipulated that he will
> > pay for his own insurance.  So, last night he took the car to Nicki's
>house
> > and came home.  Today, he went to Nicki's house, put her in the car and
> > went out to eat.  How do we know, Greg drove by one time  and found the
>car
> > in front of Nicki's house, then he came back later and it was gone.  They
> > were having lunch out.  Greg walked in and sat down across from them,
>where
> > they were eating,  and asked for the keys.  Chris was caught red handed
>and
> > complied.  Then, there was a policeman also having lunch so Greg went over
> > to check out the rules and the officer said that for him to suspend the
> > license he would have to see Chris actually driving, but if we press the
> > issue, the state will support us.  Chris also has a meeting with his
> > probation officer this afternoon, at which time, all this will be coming
> > out, including Chris riding in the car with a drunk person last week and,
> > who knows what all else,  and we have no idea what she will say about
>things.
> >         The sad thing is that, ever since last Thursday, we have been
>getting
> > along much better with Chris.  We've had some really open and frank
> > discussions.  I think that we're as disappointed in how things turned out
> > as he is, but he has to learn to respect the law and to say "no," to his
> > impulsivity.    Thanks for letting me fil you in and thanks, as always,
>for
> > praying.
> > Who else,
> > Chris's mom!  Arg!