Thanks Cindy,
That's kind of where I am headed, thinking wise right now. I did talk to
one person here and she informed me that this is a behavior that falls
under mandated reporting, but I'm not sure that that is the right thing
either. Greg is leaning toward confronting Chris and reporting it, but he
is respecting my caution and we are both still praying.
Kathy
At 06:28 PM 7/28/2005, you wrote:
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>as much as it kills you to do it....step back and pray. pray for both,
>that God would continue to move on that girl's heart, she is apparantly
>being touched in some way, and that God would use that, to soften Chris's
>heart towards the Lord.
>
>Then after you pray, and you know that God wants you to say something,
>then say it...but if you go back and forth on it...then don't...God will
>tell you clear when its time to step in.
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>cindy
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>Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>Okay guys,
>Yes, this is a Chris question. I would appreciate some advice. Okay,
>yesterday, Chris's girl friend told him that she cheated on him while he
>was in jail last spring. I learned this through monitering, of
>course. Chris has not talked to me directly. Chris was so upset that he
>slashed a wrist, I believe only slightly. He told her about that too, so
>I'm asuming that it was an attention ploy of some sort. Chris has also
>encouraged her to give up smoking, and she admitted to him yesterday that
>she has been lying to him about having quit as well. Chris, rather than
>encouraging her to continue trying to quit, is offering to share cigarettes
>with her so that she won't feel bad. Chris had already given up smoking,
>but he's willing to go back to it for her. He's looking like such a
>pathetic and clingy person right now that it makes me sick.
>On Tuesday night, Nicki found one of those tracts on her porch that looks
>like a one hundred dollar bill, but has the plan of salvation on it. She
>started reading it to Chris and getting convicted about her life, but chris
>tried to assure her that sin isn't her fault, but Adam and Eve's fault and
>she doesn't have to worry. She felt better after he told her this, but
>still made these confessions yesterday. I believe that Nicki's heart may
>be growing tender toward the Lord, but I don't know what to do besides pray
>and I don't know if I should talk to Chris directly about what I know and
>try to help him or just tell the therapist and let him try to help Chris in
>a more objective setting. Chris wore a long sleaved shirt today. I don't
>think that he wanted us to know anything, just her, about his wrist, that
>is. Guys, I am in such unfamiliar territory right now that I just don't
>know what to do, which means that I'd better not do anything with out a lot
>of counsel from other mature Christians. What would you do?
>Kathy
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><DIV>as much as it kills you to do it....step back and pray. pray for
>both, that God would continue to move on that girl's heart, she is
>apparantly being touched in some way, and that God would use that, to
>soften Chris's heart towards the Lord. </DIV>
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><DIV>Then after you pray, and you know that God wants you to say
>something, then say it...but if you go back and forth on it...then
>don't...God will tell you clear when its time to step in. </DIV>
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><DIV>cindy<BR><BR><B><I>Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]></I></B>
>wrote:</DIV>
><BLOCKQUOTE class=replbq style="PADDING-LEFT: 5px; MARGIN-LEFT: 5px;
>BORDER-LEFT: #1010ff 2px solid">Okay guys,<BR>Yes, this is a Chris
>question. I would appreciate some advice. Okay,<BR>yesterday, Chris's girl
>friend told him that she cheated on him while he<BR>was in jail last
>spring. I learned this through monitering, of<BR>course. Chris has not
>talked to me directly. Chris was so upset that he<BR>slashed a wrist, I
>believe only slightly. He told her about that too, so<BR>I'm asuming that
>it was an attention ploy of some sort. Chris has also<BR>encouraged her to
>give up smoking, and she admitted to him yesterday that<BR>she has been
>lying to him about having quit as well. Chris, rather than<BR>encouraging
>her to continue trying to quit, is offering to share cigarettes<BR>with
>her so that she won't feel bad. Chris had already given up smoking,<BR>but
>he's willing to go back to it for her. He's looking like such
>a<BR>pathetic and clingy person right now that it makes me sick.<BR>On
> Tuesday night, Nicki found one of those tracts on her porch that
> looks<BR>like a one hundred dollar bill, but has the plan of salvation on
> it. She<BR>started reading it to Chris and getting convicted about her
> life, but chris<BR>tried to assure her that sin isn't her fault, but Adam
> and Eve's fault and<BR>she doesn't have to worry. She felt better after
> he told her this, but<BR>still made these confessions yesterday. I
> believe that Nicki's heart may<BR>be growing tender toward the Lord, but
> I don't know what to do besides pray<BR>and I don't know if I should talk
> to Chris directly about what I know and<BR>try to help him or just tell
> the therapist and let him try to help Chris in<BR>a more objective
> setting. Chris wore a long sleaved shirt today. I don't<BR>think that he
> wanted us to know anything, just her, about his wrist, that<BR>is. Guys,
> I am in such unfamiliar territory right now that I just don't<BR>know
> what to do, which means that I'd better not do anything with out a
> lot<BR>of counsel from other mature Christians. What would you
> do?<BR>Kathy<BR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR><BR><DIV>
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