Rhonda, I think your feelings are perfectly normal.  Christa is at the stage 
my daughter was at a couple years ago, where they think their blind parent 
is a pain and that they're suffering a fate worse than death at being asked 
to take the blind parent around.  Your request sounds totally reasonable to 
me.  So now you have to decide what you're going to do about a fellow 
adult's refusal to give you transportation, even if their decision was based 
on an immature attitude.  I don't think worrying about whether or not you're 
being too insensitive is going to get you anywhere.  You feel what you feel, 
and it's okay.  I think I'd feel the same way.  But it seems to me that all 
you can do is decide how you're going to get to college, and let Christa 
live with herself and her immaturity until she gets past the stage where she 
worries about appearances and does what makes sense in the situation.

Hugs from a mom who's been there,

Peggy
http://kernsac.livejournal.com/
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Rhonda Partain" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, June 01, 2006 7:08 PM
Subject: a parent question


> Hi, have a question for all you visually impaired or blind parents with
> sighted teens:
> Ben and I bought Christa a car, a 200 Kooger about a year ago.  We have
> payed the insurance until Ben started r3eceiving a Ssdi check for Christa,
> he gave her part of the money and she payed her insurance with it.  We no
> longer get the check for her since she is now 18.  The thing is, her car
> recently had a lot of work done, a fuel pump which was 500 dollars,  I 
> gave
> her 180 and Ben gave her 100 she paid the rest from graduation money that
> she got from friends and family.
> Now...in the Fall we will both be going to the same college.  Jenna and
> Austin are thinking of moving to  Carrollton the town in which the college
> is located.  The college is about 13 miles from where I currently live. 
> So,
> I asked Christa if she wouldn't mind if I rode in to college with her, I
> would give her money for gas I get a millage allowance from rehab.  She 
> said
> that kids shouldn't go to college with their parents, and since I have
> Bowers my guide dog I stick out like a sore thumb!!
> I didn't want Jenna to have to come the 13 miles from where she will live 
> to
> pick me up only to go back to the college, it semed  foolish since Christa
> and I were going to the same place.
> I felt hurt, as though somehow Christa w4ere ashamed of me, instead of 
> being
> proud her Mom was going back to school and would be a junior in the Fall,
> she doesn't want to be seen with me.  I understand that kids don't want to
> be with their parents, but  do you think I'm being to sensitive?
> I have decided that Ben and I will look for a h ouse closer to school.
> There is a transportation service that only would help me with
> transportation if I lived in Carrol County, so perhaps we can find a house
> there.
> Rhonda
>