Good points!
I agree.  It is hard to work things out, be it in a friendship, or a
marriage, I think that God puts us in situations where we have to learn how
to love one another, this of course doesn't come naturally to us!
Rhonda
----- Original Message -----
From: "BD" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2004 10:28 PM
Subject: Re: OK OK People!


> And it is that prayer along with others I'm sure as well as my own, that
> proved my post to be null and void. Perhaps it ought be slow to type and
> quick to listen and quick to pray hehehe. In truth, when we look  at our
> own lives, and experiences, our own trials between relationships, they can
> get very ugly at times, but it is sticking it out, pursuing those
> relationships and being committed to honoring God and rebuilding lost
> trust, that we find later, those relationships have become much stronger
> and grown a little because of the trial. Hopefully that is the case here
> and will be in the future for those not here to consider that point.
>
> Brad
>
>
>
>
> At 01/14/2004 on Wednesday, you wrote:
> >I too felt sad reading some of the posts, many friends who I love seemed
at
> >odds with each other, and I didn't have a clue as to what to say.  I
could
> >only pray for God's peace, and that we would all turn our hearts back
> >towards love.  I know, just speaking for myself, I don't have all the
> >answers.  I care very much about others, but can not give them point by
> >point what they should do, what I can do, however, is assure them of my
love
> >and friendship, and that God has not, and will not forget or leave them.
> >The best thing I can do, is to pray, because God knows all the answers,
and
> >even the questions that are whispered in thenight.
> >
> >Rhonda
> >----- Original Message -----
> >From: "BD" <[log in to unmask]>
> >To: <[log in to unmask]>
> >Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2004 3:42 PM
> >Subject: OK OK People!
> >
> >
> > > To Everyone on the list.
> > >
> > > I have yet to read through the many emails  yet, but I've seen enough
to
> > > know, forgive me Vicki if you would, to step in for a moment. People,
> > > people! What is happening to us as a Christian body? Have we not let
the
> > > enemy have foothold? Do we really, in actuality believe that we are
indeed
> > > a body of believers here to support and pray with each other? And yet
I
> > > open my email box to see bickering,  accusations, opinions of others
> >waxing
> > > to and fro dependent upon anothers post. This has to and will stop now
> > > please. None of us, myself being no exception are perfect or have all
the
> > > right answers. We are not judge and jury to others problems. We offer
> > > support, hopefully based upon a prayerful post directed by the Holy
> >Spirit.
> > > We have let our own pride, our own designs and our own need to be
heard
> > > dictate and administer to the dismay of others on the list. If I were
a
> >new
> > > comer to the list, I'd turn my tail out of here in a heartbeat in
wonder
> >of
> > > what was that! I've been a part of such so-called Christian lists and
it
> >is
> > > very upsetting.  So. please. I would ask that we all, stop for a
moment,
> > > and examine ourselves before God in our motives and intent in our
recent
> > > posts. I'd ask that we honestly look at how we may have handled
ourselves
> > > in a knee-jerk reaction to a post. We know full well the personalities
on
> > > this list of those who post regularly, and to be honest with you, I'd
not
> > > like to lose one person. Each has something to offer, each are at
varying
> > > levels of spiritual maturity, and I'm sure we'd all agree that we have
yet
> > > to reach our greatest day in that spiritual maturity. If we are going
to
> > > quote scripture, what about, be slow to speak, slow to anger, quick to
> > > listen? How about reading Epheasians 4:22 through the beginning of
chapter
> > > 6. Look we all make mistakes, we all can get caught up in a moment, we
all
> > > have our hang ups, our petty and not so petty things which may need
work
> > > on, and that is OK. What makes a mature Christian or mature person is
> > > owning up to such mistakes, making them right with someone whom you
have
> > > ought with. Frankly I'm a bit surprised at the level this list as
reached
> > > in such a short time. It is a great list, filled with great people,
great
> > > support potential and it would be a terrible, terrible shame to give
> > > foothold to the enemy to have anyone leave, especially for reasons
guise
> > > under spirituality. I know this note seems a bit harsh, but certainly
you
> > > can see the point I am making. I am a bit leery to be honest, to
continue
> > > my trek down my email program. So I ask you, as a list member, to
consider
> > > your behavior, your words, and lay them before God, and see if his
stamp
> >of
> > > approval is met upon them.  Has not God asked us to pray for those we
find
> > > difficulty with? Did he say tear them up publicly? What happened to
> > > humility, tenderness, and support. Agreeing to disagree where we
disagree?
> > > Before anyone makes a rash decision to leave or to stay, to rebuttal
> > > against my comments or others, take a bit to cool off and spend a
little
> > > time before God. With that I'd also ask you to do as Jesus told the
man as
> > > he came with his sacrifice to the alter. He told him to resolve the
ought
> > > he had with his brother before bringing sacrifice to God, and it is
better
> > > to be obedient that to bring sacrifice.  I don't think anyone on this
list
> > > means to do others harm or make accusations that would injure the
person
> >or
> > > other's view upon that person, you all  have shown a deeper level of
love
> > > for that, and I'd ask you return to that, and find a way to fit
yourself,
> > > your current mood, into God's word, and not the reverse. Perhaps we
will
> > > have forthcoming mail regarding this, but please, make them positive
and
> > > proactive and not hurtful.
> > >
> > > Thank you,
> > >
> > > Brad