Thanks Betty, but I see myself as inexact, not intending to be right.
My exposition attempted to advocate another point of view.

Even were a person desiring a shift toward her perception of preferable
dynamics, the List members would likely not acquiesce.  Absent finding
common ground or compromise: affirmatively seeking an acceptable
alternative for herself seems prudent and reasonable.  That includes
leaving the List.

I did not read that Mariana wanted to leave.  I assume she left as the
alternative she saw to the status quo.  I will acknowledge her "venting"
about what she thought annoying.

It is also possible that she had other matters to attend.

S.

-----Original Message-----
From: Betty B
Sent: Friday, November 24, 2000 12:31 AM

Subject: Re: Happy Thanksgiving

You're exactly right.

A person does have the right to announce that he wants to leave because
the
dynamics of the list aren't working for him personally.  The statement
doesn't necessarily equate to a reflection of that person's desire for
those
dynamics to shift in favor of his needs at the time.

I like Mariana too, and I also admire her work.

In a message dated 11/23/2000 11:33:20 PM Eastern Standard Time,
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> We're entitled to our opinions and to express them.  I like Mariana
>  Ruybalid.  She may or not like me.  I like and respect her writing.
I
>  can understand why she might feel overwhelmed by the mail and not
want
>  to cope with post after post of mostly one-liners.  All she asked for
>  was assistance to be removed or suspended for a number of months.
She
>  requested removal tersely and gave a brief direct reason: more than
>  others have done.  She also was truthful, as I read her, which I do
not
>  always read in others.
>
>  Would she were other?  Perhaps some have us have failed to
communicate
>  with her more completely and personally.
>
>  Different strokes for different folks.  If and when she's ready
Mariana
>  will find her way back.  Wherever her journey I wish her well and
think
>  fondly of her.
>
>  ISM
>


Betty
aut viam inveniam aut faciam
"I will either find a way or make one."