Joanne,
You are oh so right. I have learned that over the course of my life- that
they have nothing of "theirs" to be proud of....... so they claim what their
children do/did. It's also ironic... I am a middle child, I am the ONLY one
to go to any college of any sort, earn a career, buy my OWN house (on my
OWN), ... That is all ME and MY accomplishments! :-)
Thanks Joanne
Paige
>From: joanne <[log in to unmask]>
>Reply-To: joanne <[log in to unmask]>
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: living w/ my family
>Date: Tue, 24 Apr 2001 13:24:57 -0400
>
>Dear Paige,
>
>Going to give you one more thought for the road and then I promise I'll go
>sit in the corner and be quiet, ok. People/parents who need to take credit
>for their children's/others accomplishments do so because they don't have
>their own accomplishments to feel proud of. The issue isn't really you but
>their self esteem issues. As far as I know your dad may be filthy rich as
>his claim to fame. It has not however brought him happiness nor contentment
>(you know what they say money can't buy you love health or happiness). Your
>accomplishments are you're own and even your dad can't take that away from
>you. It's the sense of worth that comes from deep inside that brings
>contentment. Its the sense of worth that no-one on the outside can
>influence
>because it is the true you.
>Joanne
>----- Original Message -----
>From: Paige Petersen <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2001 12:27 PM
>Subject: Re: living w/ my family
>
>
> > Another point... after I COMPLETED a masters degree in Education... my
> > father acted like he was the one who had achieved this. When I did
> > accomplish good things, he always took the credit for it- cuz he paid
>for
> > it... money is/was THE LOVE of his life!
> >
> >
> > >From: Rayna Lamb <[log in to unmask]>
> > >Reply-To: "St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List"
> > ><[log in to unmask]>
> > >To: [log in to unmask]
> > >Subject: Re: living w/ my family
> > >Date: Wed, 25 Apr 2001 00:21:39 +0800
> > >
> > >Mike,
> > >
> > >You read my mind, I was just thinking that today. I know that in my
> > >family the men were the centre of the universe, and everything
> > >revolved around them. But even though my family had me convinced from
> > >an early age that I was inferior and worthless because of the CP and
> > >because I was - sorry am - intelligent (I know, it's bizzare, but
> > >they seriously thought having a good mind was a character flaw - I got
> > >told I was a `know it all", and they used to walk out of the room
> > >whenever I started talking about things I was interested in, by the
> > >time I got up and followed them I would forget what I was saying),
> > >they never managed to convince me that I am inferior because I'm
> > >female. The idea of it just gives me the giggles! BTW I no longer
> > >think I'm inferior because of the disability.
> > >
> > >Rayna
> > >
> > >On Tue, Apr 24, 2001 at 10:48:27AM -0400, Michael H. Collis wrote:
> > > After reading what you all had to go through with your families
>Jenn
> > >and Rayna, it
> > > really makes me wonder what would have happened had you been born
>the
> > >opposite sex?
> > > Typically, there's lower value placed on females than males in
> > >patriochal
> > > societuies, and when the female is disabled, there's even less of
>a
> > >value. I am
> > > truly sorry, Sisters, about your families... I wish your families
> > >were as
> > > supportive as mine have been.
> >
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