Betty,

I can appreciate your wanting to resolve things here, however I believe if
one can't say anthing "nice", then one shouldn't.  I'm not playing the
games- I don't like games.  I don't feel it's appropriate either to attack
another member ON ANY list.  My rule of thumb is to try and work it out with
that person directly first.  If that doesn't work, bring in a
moderator/facilitator, if desired to rectify the situation.  If that doesn't
make headway, agree to disagree... or leave.  I run other chat boards and I
encourage people to work things out amongst themselves.  If one doesn't want
to... no one can change that.  If they want another "opinion" and ask for
one, I may or may not have a suggestion.  I read all posts.  And Steve, I
don't care if you respond to my posts or not- those were not my words as I
recall.  However, my perceptions and feelings are that you have been subtley
stabbing me in the back.  I won't play that game with you nor anyone else.
As for the rest, I say deal with it.... this IS life!  It's a screen on a
box - some respect it, some abuse it.

Paige


>From: Betty B <[log in to unmask]>
>Reply-To: "St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List"
><[log in to unmask]>
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: AOL IM and ICQ list  (was CP List or AoL Chit Room)
>Date: Sat, 21 Apr 2001 14:42:13 EDT
>
>In a message dated 04/21/2001 9:43:59 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
>[log in to unmask] writes:
>
> > I agree.  Banter's fine.  I and some others felt it was getting just a
> >  bit too much.  As you know I'm inclined to offer an opinion now and
> >  then.  :-)  We less effusive types also have our purpose and impact on
> >  CPL.
>
>That makes a lot of sense to me.  So when people are unhappy with other
>people's behavior on the list, let's bring it out in the open.
>
>Steve, when you say "I and some others," we don't know who the others are,
>and if they don't say something directly, they can't effect change.  It's
>also unfair for them to expect you to speak on their behalf.  Moreover,
>therein lies a clique, no?  And in all honesty, you have now advertised
>that
>you are part of that clique.
>
>Perhaps there was some legitimacy in approaching another, not dissimilar
>list
>issue with subterfuge, but there is none now that I can see.  I am now
>forced
>to conclude that this is the way change is generally accomplished on this
>list.
>
>If so, let's stop this secret squirrel stuff here and now.  That's how I
>vote.
>
>I will give you the credit for being the person who was willing to take all
>the shots, but when somebody complains to you next time, you might want to
>tell them to do their own talking.
>
>Betty

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