Jennifer,

I know that us people with Cerebral Palsy sometimes think that we're the
only people with special worries like not falling while being pregnant or
anything else.  I think that it's important for you to understand that any
able bodied pregnant woman can fall damaging her unborn baby somehow that
might cause a life time disability (sometimes more worse than Cerebral
Palsy) for the child.  I don't want to scare you but this is why the people
who love you want to help you out.  The most important thing to remember is
anyone can have a child with whatever disability, but you can limit your
chances by accepting the help and taking care of yourself.

Thanks,
Anthony

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  ----- Original Message -----
  From: Barber, Kenneth L.
  To: [log in to unmask]
  Sent: Tuesday, May 29, 2001 6:18 AM
  Subject: Re: I need opinions


  jennifer,
    1st chris loves you, we can tell that,
    2nd it is not terrible to have help
    3rd especially when pregnant see 2nd above.

  -----Original Message-----
  From: Jennifer Lahiff [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
  Sent: Saturday, May 26, 2001 11:39 PM
  To: [log in to unmask]
  Subject: I need opinions


  Since we are on the subject of independence ... I need opinions on my
  situation ... When my husband and I got together, I was much more "abled"
  bodied then I am now ... Even though I am still able to get around our
  apartment by myself... I find myself stumbling in unsafe places ... and
  tasks are becoming harder for me to complete in an  expected time frame
  (lol...so many examples!)
  Anyway, Chris is finding it harder to leave in the morning without knowing
  that I'm safe, and being able to get a drink (lets say) without worrying
  whether or not I can open a bottle ...
  He wants me to get someone to "look after" me a few hrs of the day ... to
  make sure I'm ok... I'm stubborn!!! And until this thread was first
posted,
  I
  never thought of the potential importance of having someone help me since
I
  grew up always having to deal with it... Am I making sense..???
  And when and if I get pregnant...wouldn't it be wise for someone to be
there
  watching after me some of the time???? Where can I look to get a person to
  help me?? Do I even qualify??  I'm mostly venting...so forgive me
  Jennifer
  ps- When Chris and I take a vacation... It's quite hard to find an
  accessible
  restroom...so in that case  I do too wear protective underwear while on
the
  road ... I never had to use them ..but it's comfort in knowing I have that
  if
  worst comes to worst...

  ((((((sorry so long))))))))