Dear Paige,

Going to give you one more thought for the road and then I promise I'll go
sit in the corner and be quiet, ok. People/parents who need to take credit
for their children's/others accomplishments do so because they don't have
their own accomplishments to feel proud of. The issue isn't really you but
their self esteem issues. As far as I know your dad may be filthy rich as
his claim to fame. It has not however brought him happiness nor contentment
(you know what they say money can't buy you love health or happiness). Your
accomplishments are you're own and even your dad can't take that away from
you. It's the sense of worth that comes from deep inside that brings
contentment. Its the sense of worth that no-one on the outside can influence
because it is the true you.
Joanne
----- Original Message -----
From: Paige Petersen <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2001 12:27 PM
Subject: Re: living w/ my family


> Another point... after I COMPLETED a masters degree in Education... my
> father acted like he was the one who had achieved this.  When I did
> accomplish good things, he always took the credit for it- cuz he paid for
> it... money is/was THE LOVE of his life!
>
>
> >From: Rayna Lamb <[log in to unmask]>
> >Reply-To: "St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List"
> ><[log in to unmask]>
> >To: [log in to unmask]
> >Subject: Re: living w/ my family
> >Date: Wed, 25 Apr 2001 00:21:39 +0800
> >
> >Mike,
> >
> >You read my mind, I was just thinking that today.  I know that in my
> >family the men were the centre of the universe, and everything
> >revolved around them.  But even though my family had me convinced from
> >an early age that I was inferior and worthless because of the CP and
> >because I was - sorry am -  intelligent (I know, it's bizzare, but
> >they seriously thought having a good mind was a character flaw - I got
> >told I was a `know it all", and they used to walk out of the room
> >whenever I started talking about things I was interested in, by the
> >time I got up and followed them I would forget what I was saying),
> >they never managed to convince me that I am inferior because I'm
> >female.  The idea of it just gives me the giggles!  BTW I no longer
> >think I'm inferior because of the disability.
> >
> >Rayna
> >
> >On Tue, Apr 24, 2001 at 10:48:27AM -0400, Michael H. Collis wrote:
> >     After reading what you all had to go through with your families Jenn
> >and Rayna, it
> >     really makes me wonder what would have happened had you been born
the
> >opposite sex?
> >     Typically, there's lower value placed on females than males in
> >patriochal
> >     societuies, and when the female is disabled, there's even less of a
> >value.  I am
> >     truly sorry, Sisters, about your families...  I wish your families
> >were as
> >     supportive as mine have been.
>
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