I know I'm getting in the middle of this discussion, but I agree with
Bobby about getting into a relationship is a waste if you only want to
do it to fix somebody or something.  I know a woman with CP who I
actually looked up to as a role model since she's 10 years older than
me, she had almost everything going for her and with the ability to
better herself by however she would have liked to.  One of her problems
was her Mom and other family members liked to control her every move,
and she wanted to escape that somehow.  So she decided the best way was
to get pregnant with a guy's child and eventually they decided to get
married for the child's interests.  Today, I feel nobody in that
household is very happy, which is depressing to watch especially when
there's a child involved.

Thanks,
Anthony

Visit me at http://www.anthonyarnold.net/

-----Original Message-----
From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
[mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of Cleveland, Kyle E.
Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2003 8:58 PM
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Subject: Re: I think I really like him.. but he doesn't love himself...

...a lesson, Bobby, that many of us take years to learn.  Wish I'd known
that before my first marriage, lo these many years ago.

Kyle

-----Original Message-----
From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Saturday, September 06, 2003 3:23 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: I think I really like him.. but he doesn't love himself...


       ... "If you engage in a relationship in order to "fix" someone,
you are wasting you time". Be happy with how they are, not what you
think
they could be.

Bobby