Anthony, we all have to express our emotions in some way. Like you,
I don't normally rage at people or talk back, but I can tell you it's
dangerous to hold it all in. I have high blood pressure and I think
one reason is because I internalise things so much, and I have also
started getting migraines in the past few years. Stress at work and
in my life certainly have not helped matters any.
I have gone to therapists a couple of times when things got too hard
for me to cope and they helped tremendously. I also took
antidepressants after my mum died but quit those because as far as I
could tell, they didn't help at all. So it was the counselling
sessions with Hospice and just letting the grief process happen that
helped me -- actually, it was a process that started when my dad died
and finished about a year after my mother died. Losing my dad was so
painful because I was closer to him than my mother that I recall days
when I cried without any warning. It wasn't so painful after my
mother died but it still was tough.
Anyway I now use meditation and time off from things to cope. I
don't meditate every single day but at work for example, I go to the
bathroom and shut the stall door and just do breathing exercises for
a few minutes - it really helps! If I find myself starting to lose
it, I stop, take a deep breath, and count to twenty, and count higher
if need be, to cool down. I honestly don't think yelling helps at
all but my anger takes the form of cutting sarcasm which I have to
watch. I also have found it helpful to recognise the triggers that
push my buttons and again get away from the situation, etc. to cool
off. I take after my dad in this respect as he never lost his temper
that I can recall, which infuriated my mother, who loved a good
argument.
Kat
On 8 Apr 2006, at 18:19, Anthony Arnold wrote:
I don't know if my parents know what I have, and they're neither
trained in
this area, so I'm not expecting them to diagnose me. My brother's
fiancé's
parents asked the similar thing after I left last evening, they were
really
concerned about me my mother tells me. I feel like writing them and
explaining what happened but I don't know myself, I had a very positive
evening on phones, I went to my parent's for supper after work, and
didn't
last 10 minutes before exploding, and than asked to be taken home. This
morning my mother reminded me of numerous times I have had
explosions, and I
can remember at least 85% but the other 15% are news to me, but I
know my
past and know my parents wouldn't lie about something like this.
I'm going to go to a therapist of my choice, but it's embarrassing
because
my family is well respected around the community, and we know several
therapists.
It's just weird because in front of PRC people and customers, I
haven't had
any problems, and the majority of my work is very challenging, but I
somehow
pull it off in no time. Just today I took care of a few major problems
within seconds, would somebody with a mental illness be able to
perform like
that and research whatever problems, I believe not.
Thanks,
Anthony
Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
-----Original Message-----
From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On
Behalf Of
Linda Walker
Sent: Saturday, April 08, 2006 3:55 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
It's hard to tell Anthony without more information. Right after Case
wrote his note about his wonderful family his father had him in tears
and Case accused his dad of name calling, something Case never does.
Dad called him a sniveler. He rarely snivels and I think they expect
too much out of him, especially at 7.
I have told my son he expects better behavior out of his kids than he
does of himself.
So back to your parents. Can you figure out what triggers your
explosion? Are they not hearing something you say repeatedly? Do they
think you are bipolar or something like that? What mental problem is
being suggested? Just trying to get more info here?
This may not be your problem at all. It could be something amiss in
the family system that gets repeatedly played out. This happens even
when people have the best of intentions towards one another.
At 09:55 AM 4/8/2006, you wrote:
> Mike,=20
>
> I know this may sound funny coming from a guy who sometimes appears
> to =
> have
> everything moving in a positive direction with working, living =
> independently
> and enjoying weight lifting, but I sometimes too feel forced into a
> lifestyle which my parents say is bull, and their tired having me =
> complain
> about feeling forced into something. My suggestion for you is to
> move =
> on,
> it's your life, why not enjoy it, start seeing this gal before time
> runs
> out. =20
>
> Back to myself, I had another blow out with my parents, brother, his =
> fianc=E9,
> and her parents happened to be there to witness it, and were shock
> since =
> I'm
> supposed to be a intelligent individual very respected in
> augmentative =
> and
> alternative communication (a field I love). After blowing up, I =
> requested
> to be driven home where my comfort zone is, so my father brought me
> home =
> and
> left me to cool down. This morning we talked by telephone, and =
> everybody
> thinks I should get help with my emotions, and probably some
> medicine. =
> My
> mom says this is 15 years late because I can be good for months and
> than
> just snap. I'm going to get help because I'm tired of the after =
> feeling,
> today I feel physically tired, and I have things to prepare for.
> I'm =
> just
> scared of the therapist saying I can't work (something I definitely =
> enjoy,
> and am one of the better technicians at PRC for working out whatever).
> Another concern is the mental illness label, I don't want that
> effecting =
> the
> way I'm seen by the company and our customers, I want to figure out =
> their
> future communication devices, something I'm good at. =20
>
> Bobby always said this list was caring, and I definitely need
> guidance =
> now.
>
>
> Thanks,=20
> Anthony=20
> Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On
> Behalf =
> Of
> Kendall David Corbett
> Sent: Saturday, April 08, 2006 1:49 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
>
> Mike,=3D20
> =3D20
> Who is preventing you from seeing this woman? I assume you are
> both of =
> =3D
> legal age and are in charge of your own affairs. There are several
> =3D
> reliable forms of birth control that could be used that don't
> involve =
> =3D
> permanently precliding the option of children.
> =3D20
> Kendall
>
> =3D20
> ________________________________
>
> From: [log in to unmask] [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Fri 4/7/2006 7:54 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
>
>
>
> I have been prevented from seeing a woman I've known for years on the
> assumption that she'll end up pregnant. I would love to have a =3D
> committed
> relationship, but it just hasn't happened yet.
>
> Walk away before I finish what you started. Face to face I will
> put you =
> =3D
> in
> your place. End this game before I finish what you started. Face
> to =3D
> face
> everything will change.
>
> "Stand Up" by Trapt
>
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