Anthony,
It is one thing to need counseling, and another to need to be in a psych
hospital. Both my parents were Psychologists well, dad was, and mom was an
MSW who had issues with her own intermittant blow ups. Anyway, people who
take care of their emotions will be more respected than those who do not.
Don't be afraid to get counseling, and many people take anti-depressants,
so it should not impact how people in the community feel about you. And,
fwiw, (for what it's worth) you should not be too concerned about how
others view you! In the late 70's I used to listen to a wonderful lady
named Dr. Terry Whitaker, and she wrote a great book, titled;
"What you think of me is none of my business" and I found it very
liberating. As long as you live your life in an ethical way, what others
think of you should not matter.
Don't let others push you into anything. Like Kat's mother, and my mother,
I was a reactive personality who could explode now and then. I had to go to
counseling when my episodes threatened my marriage. As annoying as my
husband was at the time, he didn't deserve to be screamed at or have books
tossed at him. I learned to see the red flags for myself... went something
like this;
annoyance, pissed off, anger rising, perhaps getting hot in my neck, Anger,
and then rage.... When I learned to recognize those red flags, and it took
me about nine months, I could see it coming, and tell him, okay I need a
time out, either you need to leave me alone, or I need to go in the other
room to calm down... There were defintely times I felt he was pushing me on
purpose, by trying to belittle my feelings of anger, by saying, oh come on,
you're not realy mad... there was one time he was doing that, and I had
reached the boiling point, and had to say, Tim, please, leave me alone, I
am really angry and if you don't get out of my face now, I will SLUG YOU!
So, that is how counseling can help.
Mag
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> [Original Message]
> From: Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Date: 4/8/2006 4:27:21 PM
> Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
>
> Why is it so shocking, I would feel they would want you to be happy. And
> plus understanding partners are difficult to come.
>
> Thanks,
> Anthony
> Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> Chester Worwa
> Sent: Saturday, April 08, 2006 5:44 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
>
> This is just family. Believe me I go through it a lot
> and this is why I'm so glad I moved out almost 10
> years ago. If they knew the "real" me I'd probably be
> locked up for a long time. It's just so shocking that
> my parents want me to move in with my girlfriend.
>
> --- Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
> > Mike,=20
> >
> > I know this may sound funny coming from a guy who
> > sometimes appears to =
> > have
> > everything moving in a positive direction with
> > working, living =
> > independently
> > and enjoying weight lifting, but I sometimes too
> > feel forced into a
> > lifestyle which my parents say is bull, and their
> > tired having me =
> > complain
> > about feeling forced into something. My suggestion
> > for you is to move =
> > on,
> > it's your life, why not enjoy it, start seeing this
> > gal before time runs
> > out. =20
> >
> > Back to myself, I had another blow out with my
> > parents, brother, his =
> > fianc=E9,
> > and her parents happened to be there to witness it,
> > and were shock since =
> > I'm
> > supposed to be a intelligent individual very
> > respected in augmentative =
> > and
> > alternative communication (a field I love). After
> > blowing up, I =
> > requested
> > to be driven home where my comfort zone is, so my
> > father brought me home =
> > and
> > left me to cool down. This morning we talked by
> > telephone, and =
> > everybody
> > thinks I should get help with my emotions, and
> > probably some medicine. =
> > My
> > mom says this is 15 years late because I can be good
> > for months and than
> > just snap. I'm going to get help because I'm tired
> > of the after =
> > feeling,
> > today I feel physically tired, and I have things to
> > prepare for. I'm =
> > just
> > scared of the therapist saying I can't work
> > (something I definitely =
> > enjoy,
> > and am one of the better technicians at PRC for
> > working out whatever).
> > Another concern is the mental illness label, I don't
> > want that effecting =
> > the
> > way I'm seen by the company and our customers, I
> > want to figure out =
> > their
> > future communication devices, something I'm good at.
> > =20
> >
> > Bobby always said this list was caring, and I
> > definitely need guidance =
> > now.
> >
> >
> > Thanks,=20
> > Anthony=20
> > Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Cerebral Palsy List
> > [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf =
> > Of
> > Kendall David Corbett
> > Sent: Saturday, April 08, 2006 1:49 PM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
> >
> > Mike,=3D20
> > =3D20
> > Who is preventing you from seeing this woman? I
> > assume you are both of =
> > =3D
> > legal age and are in charge of your own affairs.
> > There are several =3D
> > reliable forms of birth control that could be used
> > that don't involve =
> > =3D
> > permanently precliding the option of children.
> > =3D20
> > Kendall
> >
> > =3D20
> > ________________________________
> >
> > From: [log in to unmask] [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Fri 4/7/2006 7:54 PM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: Larry King Live last night
> >
> >
> >
> > I have been prevented from seeing a woman I've known
> > for years on the
> > assumption that she'll end up pregnant. I would
> > love to have a =3D
> > committed
> > relationship, but it just hasn't happened yet.
> >
> > Walk away before I finish what you started. Face to
> > face I will put you =
> > =3D
> > in
> > your place. End this game before I finish what you
> > started. Face to =3D
> > face
> > everything will change.
> >
> > "Stand Up" by Trapt
> >
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