Anee,

        We all are related to opinionated people. Your grandfather is xx
years old, and, as a friend of mine says, "If Grandpa hasn't change in xx
years and you are expecting him to, it's you who has the problem, because
others are not going to change just because we wish they would."

Just something to think about.

Bobby



>Hi Cindy
>
>I know how you feel.  My grandfather has a hard time accepting the disability
>he has from having 2 hart attcks and lymphadema, and spinal stenosis...the
>consequence being that he is always talking about disability in a derogatory
>mannor.  For instance one day we took my grandparents out to eat at a
>restraunt and parked in the handicapped place as we always do when availible
>becasue of the difficulty I have walking...well my grandfather proclaims in a
>loud voice--and rember I am in the car--"why are we parking here this space
>is for cripples!"  Now this comes after 18 (this happend 2 years ago) of
>knowing me!  Now I undersand that the reason he did this was because he can't
>accept disability and was brought up in a difrent era than I was but still
>you would think he would learn by now.
>
>He is constintly making remaks that we should abolish all welfare progrmas
>because the people who are on them "all have 10 kids and are just using it as
>an excues to get off of doing work and to have more kids".  This I find
>offensive because I know that there are alot of peole who have disabilities
>who either can not work or are on Food Stamps, SCI or other assistance.  I
>get SO MAD when he says stuff like this.
>
>Yours,
>Anee
>Webmaster of CPIC
>http://www.geocities.com/aneecp/
>
>In a message dated 12/8/1999 11:52:08 PM Central Standard Time,
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> I agree, it's bad enough from strangers, but when it comes from your own
> family, it's more then I can bare.  Lizzy and I have really just begun the
> fight (she's 23 mo.) and already I am angry and tired!
> Cindy Bushnell and Lizzy Jo >>