Thank you all for your suggestions.  I have had a person from the county
Mental Health dept. come to the IEP meetings before, but he doesn't really
know much about the school system and how it works.  I will see if I can find
a parent advocate with a state agency who might be able to help me.  I also
plan on talking to a couple of the therapists beforehand to discuss some
things I consider problems, so they won't get defensive during the meeting.

Kimberlee, mom to Stefan (4) and Alex (9)