Hi Anee,

        You are very correct to enforce the idea of finding the correct
therapist - you must be able to trust this individual and they must not make
assumptions. The first one you find may not be the right therapist and
indeed you may do better in a group setting. I have gone to therapists on
several ocassions - the first 2 where more interested in treating my abusers
than me - as they figured I was fine. And yes I am fine but this doesn't
mean I couldn't benefit from talking thru things which bother me.

                                 Trisha
>I really do want to re-enforce the point that I think Betty and I might be
>attempting to make here--
>If you go to a psycholoigist or psycitrist for counsling ect..make shure
>that
>thay have a basic knologe/acceptence of your goles and see them in a
>supportive light.  This can make a diffrence in the binifits you recive
from
>any councling