KJ,
I sent a thing on disability etiquette to the list a few minutes ago that might be a good way to start a conversation about the subject. That could be either via email or in person, whichever would be more comfortable for you. In something like this though, I prefer talking to people directly.
Kendall Corbett
Coordinator of Consumer Activities
Wyoming INstitute for Disabilities - WIND
College of Health Sciences
University of Wyoming
1000 E. University Avenue, Dept. 4298
Laramie, WY 82070
(307) 766-2853
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-----Original Message-----
From: Kathy Pink [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Tuesday, April 04, 2006 9:57 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: Babysitter Issue
Kendall,
Other people (family members, other friends). Would it be appropriate to
e-mail the people that are doing it?
KJ
>From: Kendall David Corbett <[log in to unmask]>
>Reply-To: Cerebral Palsy List <[log in to unmask]>
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: Babysitter Issue
>Date: Mon, 3 Apr 2006 11:48:09 -0600
>
>KJ,
>
>Are your attendants referring to themselves as your "babysitters," or are
>other people ("Friends," family members, etc.) referring to them that way?
>In either case, it's inappropriate, but if it's friends and/or family
>members, it sounds like it's time to sit down with them and say "Look, I'm
>in my 30's. Thirty year olds, even with disabilities, may need help with
>some tasks, but that doesn't make us children!"
>
>My first job out of college was working for an agency that helped people
>with disabilities live independently. We had some employees who were in
>their 50's and early 60's, who referred to the people we worked with as
>kids, and I hated it! After I'd been working there about 6 months, I got
>the job of training coordinator, and one of the first things I did was
>start training on the use of People First language, and treating EVERYONE
>in an age appropriate manner.
>
>One of the toughest groups to work with was family members of the people we
>provided support to. But I told them that if I heard staff referring to
>their family member inappropriately, I'd have a "talk" with that staff
>member, and it'd make things a lot easier for the staff if family members
>and friends used People First and age appropriate language.
>
>It didn't completely solve the problem, but it helped a lot!
>
>Kendall Corbett
>Coordinator of Consumer Activities
>Wyoming INstitute for Disabilities - WIND
>College of Health Sciences
>University of Wyoming
>1000 E. University Avenue, Dept. 4298
>Laramie, WY 82070
>(307) 766-2853
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>
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Kathy Pink [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
>Sent: Sunday, April 02, 2006 3:04 PM
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Babysitter Issue
>
>For those of you that need assistance in dialy life, here's a question for
>you. . . Do other people in your kife,,, call them your baby-sitter?
>
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