Linda, Kat, et al,
My parents were in general, not overprotective, and I think that's
helped me much more than protecting me too much would have (i.e., more
than my brother and sister). When I was about ten, I had a group of
kids that did the same thing that happened to Case, and the way that it
was finally resolved was to "ambush" the ringleader of the group (nobody
hurt more than bruises). We all got sent to the principal's office, but
after that instance I had no real problems with those guys again.
If Case dreams of being an NBA player, let him, IMHO. Most boys dream
of being an athlete of some sort, and most don't make it. We all learn
where our true talents are. As the poet Robert Browning said, "Ah, but
a man's reach should exceed his grasp - or what's a heaven for?"
Robert Browning
English poet (1812 - 1889)
BTW, I had to stay after school for a week afterward, and was grounded
after I got home for two weeks, so I was also taught that violence is
_not_ a justified reaction.
Kendall
An unreasonable man (but my wife says that's redundant!)
The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all
progress depends on the unreasonable man.
-George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950
-----Original Message-----
From: Linda Walker [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Tuesday, September 12, 2006 7:08 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: [C-PALSY] An extraordinary medical find (rejection and
coddling)
Sometimes I think Cases's parents don't protect him enough. He tries
to keep up with a very active older brother. We had a mean kid on the
street who thought it was funny to push Case over. He moved away
thankfully but Case's dad told Case just push him back and he'll
stop. I on the other hand went out and let him have it. I have
enlisted his older brothers friends to help Case. Because he is so
active he sometimes yells help and kids ignore him. I explained to
the kids his muscles are very tight right now and please make sure he
is safe and they are all good kids and do look out for him. It's a
fine line and we all do our best. He handles things amazingly well
for 8. I do not have as much grace as he does.
At 03:48 PM 9/12/2006, you wrote:
>Yes, but you know, that anyone can be rejected for any number of
>reasons, not just disabilities, and I happen to think that parents of
>kids with disabilities tend to overprotect their kids from rejections
>and the real world; they need to learn how to cope with such things.
>My parents never tried to protect me like that and I am profoundly
>grateful to them. I honestly don't think I'd have been able to
>function as well as I have on my own if they had coddled me.
>
>Now, having said that, I do concede that you are Case's guardian and
>you know what's best for him - only you or his parents know how he
>can handle things like this.
>
>Kat
>
>
>On 12 Sep 2006, at 21:41, Linda Walker wrote:
>
>Kat,
>Yes yes yes you are fine. I am sorry. This is my favorite list of
>people.
>Case wants to go to the NBA tho. Is it wrong to let him know there
>are jobs as announcers, coaches, and not just as players? I have kept
>quiet about this so far to him. He practices basketball all the time
>and can actually dribble and catch rebounds now although I don't see
>how he does it he is so twisted up in his feet in the moment.
>
>At 03:24 PM 9/12/2006, you wrote:
> > This all makes me want to complain, what's wrong with being the way
I
> > am? I like myself the way I am, dammit!
> >
> > Kat
> >
> >
> > On 12 Sep 2006, at 21:23, Deri James wrote:
> >
> > On Wednesday 13 September 2006 01:54, Linda Walker wrote:
> > > Is it possible this could help CP? That the brain cells aren't
dead
> > > but in some permanent state of rest. This is so amazing.
> > >
> >
> > I kinda like the notion my brain is in a permanent state of rest - I
> > just
> > thought it was too much alcohol!!
> >
> > Cheers
> >
> > Deri
> >
> > PS Still waiting for a princess to come along and wake me with a
kiss
> > - any
> > Princesses on the list? (Perth is too far away).
> >
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