well, her side of the story on the couch is one thing,
physical abuse is still another. 

--- Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> The attendant who's a RN did tell the police her
> side of the story and some
> of her past experiences with this gal's husband,
> odds are that they have it
> documented somewhere.  The husband also has a
> criminal record and was once
> in jail for sometime, which would probably help if
> they do divorce, I would
> hope the decision who gets the daughter would be
> easier because of that.
> But he has her believing that she would stand no
> chances of even visitation,
> but little he knows they would look at his past. The
> part that kills me is
> that he believes that they can live off of her SSI,
> and every time he has no
> work, the more benefits she can receive, so he has
> just stopped looking for
> work, which is totally wrong, we have people who
> definitely need and can't
> get.  Another thing is through housing, people can
> receive assistance
> building a house (which is wonderful), this couple
> built theirs, and
> whenever he is out of work, they only have to pay a
> dollar a month for the
> payment.  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that people
> with disabilities now
> have a opportunity of owning a house, but we don't
> need to abuse the system
> for others.  
> 
> Thanks, 
> Anthony 
> Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> ken barber
> Sent: Monday, February 27, 2006 1:51 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Fwd: Marriage
> 
> if you think there is abuse, this RN may be the
> person
> to report it to the athorities as a medical
> professional has an obligation. you might want to
> approach her. 
> 
> --- Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]>
> wrote:
> 
> > I guess it's typical of abusive situations
> > (unfortunately), but when they're
> > at church together as a family, everybody thinks
> he
> > is a kind guy helping
> > his wife anyway he can, but when they're out of
> the
> > church environment, his
> > whole attitude changes.  But at church, you can
> > typically get volunteers to
> > help you at home, which is something he wants
> > because he doesn't want to do
> > anything for his wife.  
> > 
> > This gal Also has a personal attendant coming in,
> > and once she requested her
> > attendant to build up their couch, to make it
> easier
> > for her to get on and
> > off, the attendant did, and it was a fairly cheap
> > and simple modification to
> > do, but the husband threw a fit and refused to sit
> > on the couch, and
> > actually called the cops on this attendant for
> > trying to do this.  This
> > attendant is a RN, and has a license to protect,
> and
> > didn't want this to go
> > on her record.  The positive thing was the cops
> were
> > very understanding to
> > why the gal needed the couch built up, so they did
> > nothing besides just
> > logged the call.  This attitude is very foreign
> for
> > me, I have always been
> > surrounded by people who always have not only
> > accepted but shown some
> > interest in my wheelchair and other assistive
> > technology devices that assist
> > me with my daily life.  
> > 
> > Thanks, 
> > Anthony 
> > Visit my website at www.anthonyarnold.net
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Cerebral Palsy List
> > [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
> > ken barber
> > Sent: Monday, February 27, 2006 11:50 AM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: Fwd: Marriage
> > 
> > it is definatly abuse. you need to get the woman
> and
> > child some help. i wish i could say that a prist
> > would
> > be the way to go, but, i know from experience that
> > some religous leaders will not step up and do the
> > right thing, many times they take the "see no
> > evil..."
> > approach. if the priest does not get her some
> help,
> > then you go somewhere else to get it. 
> > 
> > --- Kathleen Salkin <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> > 
> > > Mag's right, I'd see this as spousal abuse, not
> as
> > a
> > > guy that has got  
> > > problems with his wife's disability.  I think
> you
> > > ought to talk to  
> > > their priest and see what he says.  If not their
> > > parish priest, then  
> > > another priest.  Unless he is very conservative
> on
> > > such matters, the  
> > > priest should be willing to talk them about this
> > > situation.
> > > 
> > > Maybe the husband has a drinking problem, or
> even
> > > worse, a meth habit  
> > > (all too common these days, I fear).  Thus, it's
> > > imperative that an  
> > > experienced person get in there and evaluate the
> > > situation.  Think in  
> > > terms of saving that lovely child from harm as
> > well
> > > as her mother.
> > > 
> > > I think the clergy has a moral, if not legal
> > > responsibility to report  
> > > it to the authorities if he sees that this is a
> > > dangerous situation  
> > > for the woman and her child.  But something does
> > > need to be done.   
> > > Too many women die or become severely disabled
> at
> > > the hands of  
> > > abusive men.
> > > 
> > > 
> > > Kat
> > > 
> > > On 27 Feb 2006, at 02:34, Magenta Raine wrote:
> > > >
> > > > There are many resources for able bodied
> > > marriages,  you can look on
> > > > Amazon.com for ideas for books. Contact Easter
> > > seals, sometimes  
> > > > they have
> > > > support groups for married folks with
> > > disabilities. also look for  
> > > > books
> > > > that help women have better self esteem.
> > > 
> > 
> > 
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