Man, when you answer a question, you really answer it.  I was impressed when
I read what you had to say too.  My relationship with my Mom has never been
open like that.  But she had a very parochial upbringing and never escaped
it.  She's way on the prudish side.  I couldn't have lived up to certain of
her expectations no matter how hard I might have tried (I didn't try, by the
way).

I thought the post was okay too.  I am just not in touch with what most
parents want their kids to be exposed to.  You are not a kid, I don't mean it
that way.  If my Mother knew I was up here writing about anal or oral sex
right now she'd have "pretend" hysterics, and I'm 41.

Shhh...here she comes.

Okay she's gone.  Whew!  That was TOO close!

As I believe I said once before, any parent would be proud and honored to
have you for a daughter.  I would.  I have a tendency to feel a little
protective of younger people, but I have also found out from being around
Amber that I may be a bit out of touch with what protection is really
necessary.  On the other hand, I know another teenager who is only one year
your junior.  He is not as ready to talk about some things as I believe you
probably were last year.  Everyone is different.

You didn't ramble at all, and I loved reading what you had to say.  I asked
out of idle curiosity, nothing more.  You really have a lot on the ball Joy.

Betty


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<< Interesting question... I think I'd be more confused than angry or upset.
 We've always had a very open and close relationship, and my parents trust me
 without any reservation.  I've earned that trust, and haven't done anything
 to abuse it.  The times in my life that I've been most upset have been not
 when my parents were angry, but when they were disappointed.  I feel like
 it's my responsibility to live up to their opinion of me, and be the kind of
 responsible person that they think I am.  That doesn't really answer your
 question though, does it?

 I guess I'd question why they were so concerned by a mention of anal and
 oral sex.  The post wasn't explicit.  It's not like I was being
 propositioned, or propositioning someone else.  I've read more graphic
 descriptions of sex in my bio and human development books.  But, if they
 were really uncomfortable with the content on this list, I'd have to go with
 their judgment.  Just like they have no reason to doubt my judgment, I have
 no reason to doubt theirs.  They've never pulled the "I'm your parent and I
 know what's best for you" card unless it was really important, so on the
 rare occasions that they do, I go with it.

 Does that make any sense?  I know the relationships that we have are very
 unusual.  I think part of it is being an only child, and part is that
 because of my disability, we spend a lot of time together.  My family is
 very close-knit as a result, and we tend to be very open with concerns like
 this.  If you want to know more, just ask.  I'm happy to discuss this
 further, but I think I'm rambling!

 ~Joy~ >>