This is the 4th time I've gotton this.  Looks like it made it to the
list, even when you thought it didn't-Gary


On Wed, 23 Aug 2000, Karen K. Perlow wrote:

> I tried sending this letter to the list & it didn't go thru the 1st time..so
> I resent it.That email was sent back unprocessed because it contained the
> same text as the 1st one. Maybe the 3rd time's the charm. Sorry for the
> confusion...I had to send this a 4th time , by the way..The communicator in
> me is VERY frustrated..LOL.
>
> After reading some of the discussion on this list, I thought I would share my
> letter to my daughter's teachers concerning her IEP..It was a nightmare due
> to a lack time & the fact that her Asperger's syndrome hadn't been diagnosed
> yet. I have to admit I was proud of it & did get their attention. Anyone
> who's dealt with an IEP can appreciate it.Feel free to share your own
> experiences.
>
> Thanks,
> Karen
> ------------------------------------------------------------------------------
> ---------------------------------------------
> February 23,2000
>
>     Since the time was much shorter than what is usually accorded an IEP
> yesterday, I wanted to express some thoughts that I didn't have the
> opportunity to concerning the reevaluation. Way back in 1990, at her intake
> evaluation, I was told that some people observing Erica at the time would say
> that she is autistic but, that she isn't because she is so "into everybody
> else's business". I believe it was Ann Schultz who told me this. About 3
> years later I was told by Karen Walsh of Special School District that ALL OF
> US have some degree of autistic tendencies. She was not speaking of Erica
> but, having an autistic son I am aware of behaviors. I believe she is correct.
>
>     I was wondering why we were not given a parent input form to fill out
> prior to the IEP ? It always helps me to gather my thoughts for the meeting.
> If that practice has been discontinued please let me know. I would like to
> let the chain of command at SSD know my feelings on the matter. I always feel
> more like a participant in the process then. It doesn't seem one sided or
> quite as negative if this is included.
>
>     I'm sorry that due to circumstances beyond our control we were unable to
> attend either of the conferences. I would have appreciated being informed of
> these behavioral concerns before now though. I felt kind of blindsided
> yesterday. I have talked to her about some of them. I think that with
> reinforcement everyday some of them will diminish or disappear. Some of her
> "paranoia" could be attributed to the problems she has had with Sarah Simpson
> during 5th & 6th grade. Sherry Stryhal can give you details on last year if
> you like. I would strongly suggest consulting Beth Mee & Alan Smith about
> this.They seem to have been successful in the past with her. Sherry Stryhal
> should be helpful in getting Erica to understand that most of this "talking
> about her" isn't really happening. We are willing to do anything we can to
> help but, we can't be a part of the solution if we're not kept abreast of the
> problem.
>
>     Thank you for your attention.
>                                         Sincerely,
>
>                                         Karen Perlow
>