Mag,

I know that I'm going to sound like if an adult makes sexual comments it's
no big deal.  However if your assistant ever gets into trouble by saying
something sexual and/or making a pass at a man during her time working with
you, you yourself wouldn't get any fingers pointed towards.

Thanks,
Anthony


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  ----- Original Message -----
  From: Magenta Raine
  To: [log in to unmask]
  Sent: Wednesday, July 25, 2001 10:13 PM
  Subject: personailty conflict with assistant*


  Hello everybody,

  I've got a problem. Here's the scenario.  My PCA & I go out, and she
flirts
  with any man who even glances her way.  It's annoying. Today, we were on a
  walk home, and there is this male postal worker in shorts. she goes up to
him
  and says something like "ooh, nice legs!"  I could not believe it. I was
so
  embarrassed. I told her not to do that when she is with me, and now she is
  mad at me. The point is that when she is with me, she is an assistive
person,
  and when she flirts -- which she says is her way of being friendly that
she
  is not representing my interests. She has in the past teased MY doctors
about
  their eyes or hair, and I've asked her not to do that. Yet she still
managed
  to say something last time I was in the doc's office.  she may have a
starved
  ego, and may need the attention, but I maintain that it's not her place to
  have her ego stoked while she's on the job. I told her it borders on
sexual
  harassment, and she doesn't see it at all. Then she wonders why men are
  constantly all over her when we are out together. They want her number,
and
  don't even see I'm there. I've termed it the "guide dog syndrome" in that
  when blind people walk their dogs, people pay attention to the dog, not
the
  person handling it. This has never happened with my other assistants... So
  guys, any advice or opinions, how do I handle this? Gary?  Nick are you
here
  yet?