One potential advantage to "speaking through the courts" is that it sets
precedent.  A potential disadvantage is backlash in the judicial courts as
well as the courts of public opinion.

On Nov 4, 2007 11:18 PM, Gary Peterson <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

>
> So as deplorable as this whole situation was, this woman should
> have voiced her displeasure much earlier then she did.  Sounds as
> if she was well qualified for the position she was in.  But
> having read this 3 times now, I cant help feel she has a self
> esteem issue that started long before she got this job.  In the
> end, I think she chose to run from the situation rather then deal
> with her own inability to honestly speak up for herself.  Now I'm
> not saying what she chose to do was right or wrong.  As much as
> I've been advocating for myself since coming out of my Mother's
> womb, to this day there are still those times when I've kept my
> mouth shut knowing full well I should have put the person or
> persons in their place.  Rather then reflecting about her own
> responsibility and behavior, she chose to sue and leave it to the
> legal system to act as the voice she could not find.
>
> Gary
>
>
> On Tue, 30 Oct 2007, kat wrote:
>
> > Now THIS makes me angry!
> >
> > From today's Times Online:
> >
> >
> > Disabled woman 'humiliated on a team-building trip'
> >
> > Yepoka Yeebo
> >
> > A disabled woman who was ordered to go ten-pin bowling with colleagues,
> even
> > though she could not use a bowling ball, was jeered at and given the
> title
> > "Mega Flops", a tribunal was told yesterday.
> >
> > Sue Foss, 46, of Westfield, East Sussex, who has accused colleagues of
> sexual
> > harassment, said constant bullying based on her disability left her
> depressed
> > and ill.
> >
> > Ms Foss, who suffers from disabilities caused by the drug thalidomide,
> has
> > three fingers on one hand, and one-inch fingers on the other.
> >
> > Ashford Employment Tribunal heard that Ms Foss, who is claiming damages
> for
> > alleged sexual harassment, was told to go on the team-building exercise
> after
> > she started working at Dore, a company in Sidcup that specialises in
> therapy
> > for children with dyslexia, in September, 2006.
> >
> > Ms Foss, who has two children, said: "I explained that because of my
> > disability I could not do this, but I was told that as a new manager I
> was
> > expected to be there. I was told to get my tits out to distract the
> other
> > team. I felt like a child using the ramp and so I bowled without it and
> acted
> > the fool to try to cover my embarrassment."
> >
> > She was given a rosette and a certificate, which she showed the court.
> It
> > read: "This certifies that you have been awarded the title of Mega
> Flops."
> >
> > Before a Christmas party she was told to wear a long dress to hide her
> legs
> > but "make sure the puppies were on display".
> >
> > "While we were sat round the table I was asked if I was a retired hooker
> and
> > another colleague asked me 'how much?'. They then started to try and
> throw
> > pieces of bread at me. The goal was to get something down my cleavage
> and the
> > table applauded if he did.
> >
> > "Instead of having fun I was miserable. Yet again, I was the brunt of
> all the
> > jokes. I got back to the hotel and cried myself to sleep."
> >
> > Ms Foss, who was earning £30,000 a year as a sales manager, said she was
> > regularly humiliated. "I started off by accepting the jokes with a laugh
> and
> > a smile, but as they went on they became more and more sexual and linked
> with
> > my disability.
> >
> > "I became hurt and took them to heart and instead of forgetting about
> them I
> > took them home with me and thought about them."
> >
> > Giving evidence on behalf of Dore, Julie Roy, the financial director,
> said
> > that she had been asked to carry out internal investigations into Ms
> Foss's
> > allegations, and could not find any evidence to support her claims.
> >
> > She said that Bob Clark, Ms Foss's boss, was dismissed in August after
> it
> > emerged he had been using his company mobile phone to send lewd
> messages. Ms
> > Roy said he had a number of harassment claims against him.
> >
> > Ms Foss, who also has trouble walking, said that Mr Clark was
> responsible for
> > planning a rollerskating trip. "I was on sick leave. But I had a call
> from my
> > boss Bob Clark. He said he was disappointed I would not be going because
> he
> > said he was looking forward to seeing me trying to roller-skate with my
> gammy
> > leg and that then I would not be able to get away from him."
> >
> > She said that she had tried to fit in and laugh off the slurs, but
> added: "It
> > was more than I could bear. They were aware how hard I found it and how
> much
> > pride I had to swallow, but they persisted in making a fool out of me.
> [The
> > Christmas party] was the final straw for me and when I went back to work
> in
> > January I just felt I couldn't go on. I was driving to work in Sidcup
> and I
> > got to a roundabout and just thought 'I can't do this' and about-turned
> and
> > drove home."
> >
> > The hearing continues.
> >
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