The glass ceiling exists still, no doubt about it.

I've encountered more sideways glances (yes, that's only my perception) from
feminists for retaining the title "Mrs." rather than using "Ms." But I did my
job in a male dominated environment where women weren't wanted, in an era
when women were the groundbreakers.  The threats came, and they scared me,
those guys really scared me for a while.  I had to make a decision about
staying or leaving.  Certain of those threats could have been carried out
with relative ease without detection in the right circumstances, so hell yes
I was scared.  In the end I stayed in the career for which I had great
passion and ability.  Leaving, running, dumping the problem in the lap of the
next women seemed way too lousy, and that's exactly what had happened to me
anyway.  It was dumped in my lap.  I knew I would hate myself forever too, if
I bailed.

Now, when I see a woman in a position like that, and she sees me, she sees
only the wheelchair or the crutches and will not know any of those things.
In a way, I wish she could know that it was for her all of the "hers" that I
and others like me stayed -- and won -- but it's still not the point, at
least it shouldn't be.  Besides, there were other women who went through much
more crap and abuse in that position than I did.  Anyway, she doesn't need to
know.  I know what I know about me.  Nothing can ever take that away.

I am a Mrs. and it's what I want to be.  I loved my husband.  I'm divorced,
and by the old fashioned rules of title usage, I can still keep that title
using my first name instead of my ex husband's.  I like that because I like
it, and because I have a lot of friends who are much older than I am who
enjoy knowing that some of the things that mean something to them are still
around and in use.  I do it in part to honor them, even to honor my own
parents.  I have a high regard for Mothers and Wives who choose those paths
as career paths.

I respect the title Ms. for women who use it. I'm not disrespectful of their
choice, why would I be?  But using the title Mrs. doesn't mean that I am not
supportive of a woman's right to earn any position she wants to have.  Being
who I want to be, being allowed to strive to earn what I want in this life
seems what feminism is about.

I haven't burned my bra.  It's just that I don't know where it is.

Betty