Linda, I think we have to be congnizant of creating generations of
"victims". In the 60s society started to realize that there were groups
of people (the disabled, ethnic groups, etc.) that were disenfranchised
and steps were made to bridge the divide. However, I believe that the
pendulum has swung too far in the other direction and we've created for
ourselves a "culture of complaint". You and Kat both allude to striking
a balance in these issues.
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Of Linda Macaulay
Sent: Wednesday, October 31, 2007 1:42 PM
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Subject: Re: Let's Shift Gears ....
Kat,
I have mixed emotions about your comment. On one hand, I do think we
need to teach kids to think for themselves and have confidence to
stand up for what they think and believe. I do think parents are way
too involved in "protecting" kids from their mistakes,
responsibilities, and such. But on the other hand, some kids do get
bullied so much that they don't want to go to school, get depressed,
and as we've seen more than once, end up shooting people. So, we
can't ignore the bullying and just tell kids to suck it up, either.
I got picked on a bit through school, but my parents taught me ways
to deal with it. They didn't fix it for me or fight my battles. But
they didn't ignore it or dismiss my feeling either. So, I turned out
ok and can stand up for myself. I think that was the key - THEY
TAUGHT ME HOW TO HANDLE IT. Too often, parents just deal with it and
get too involved and the kid never learns how to deal without someone
else to intervene.
When I was teaching 5th grade I often had kids who got picked on and
I spent a lot of time getting them to see that if they didn't deal,
the bullies win. I coached them on what to say and how to react and
usually saw the kid get stronger and more confident and then bullying
diminished.
Linda
On Oct 31, 2007, at 6:11 AM, kat wrote:
> You know, I read an article recently in which a researcher was
> quoted as saying we need to let our kids learn to deal with bullies
> - you know, let them toughen up. It seems we are raising a
> generation of whiny brats who can't deal with the realities of
> life. I have to say I kind of agree with him.
>
> Kat
>
> Deri James wrote:
>> On Wednesday 31 October 2007 02:05:02 kat wrote:
>>
>>> Thanks for setting us straight, Deri! Now you've got me feeling sick
>>> that a disabled person can use her disability to "beat the
>>> system." Ugh!
>>> Gives the rest of us a bad name.
>>>
>>> Kat
>>>
>>>
>>
>> Hi Kat,
>>
>> I do not know if I'm right, its just that I realised while reading
>> that if you take away the disability element the things she
>> describes happen to many, many people, who do not have the
>> opportunity to sue.
>>
>> Also, I realised that it seems the whole case revolves around her
>> disability, the article says she is actually suing the company for
>> sexual harrassment (not discrimination - probably because all her
>> cited instances of discrimination occurred outside work in a
>> social setting).
>>
>> Cheers
>>
>> Deri
>>
>
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