You're right, of course,  You have to be motivated to leave and strike out for
independence, and that's part of the parents' responsibility, to make sure
their children are ready to leave the nest.  Unfortunately all too many
parents of disabled children coddle them, thus making things worse.

Kat

On Wednesday 29 October 2003 23:12, you wrote:
> In a message dated 10/29/2003 19:27:33 Eastern Standard Time,
> [log in to unmask] writes:
> it would be far
> better for you, Kathy Jo to focus on becoming as independent as you can the
> way
> you are right now. If you got cured, Kathy Jo, would you know how to live
> on your own? Do you know how to pay your bills, make meals, grocery shop,
> make budgets?  It is hard work, but it's so worthwhile!
> This is what I mean Kathy Jo.  You can be as independent as you want to be
> only if YOU take the first steps toward being independent.
>
> Acknowledge what you want out of life.
> Setting an obtainable goal.
> Accepting the realistic time it would take to get there.
> Finding those who will help you achieve your goals in life and knowing how
> to handle yourself if that help isn't there.
>
> These are some goals I had since wanting to leave my mother's house.  It
> has been 14 years since starting out on my own.  This has me thinking about
> a song that's played on Star Trek: Enterprise.  The song is "Where My Heart
> Will Take Me"  The chorus goes:  "I've got faith of the heart, going where
> my heart will take me.  I've got faith to believe, I can do anything.  I've
> got strength of the soul, no one's gonna bend or break me.  I can reach any
> star.  I've got faith, faith of the heart."  The full version is played on
> radio stations that play adult contemporary music.  The artist is Russell
> Watson.
>
> Cannaday for President
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