there is absolutely no excuse for treating a woman badly. If he thinks she
is an unfit mother, I think that by him treating her badly, he is an unfit
husband and father. Be sure to document any physical evidence of beatings,
etc. even if the guy will not go to marriage counseling, encourage your
friend to get counseling. Get her some info on local battered women's
shelters, just in case. She might be afraid to look for it, or even afraid
to admit there is a problem. marrying because of premarital sex /
premarital pregnancy is the worst excuse for marriage. If you suspect this
man has a violent past, perhaps you could hire a PI to find out more about
him.
There are many resources for able bodied marriages, you can look on
Amazon.com for ideas for books. Contact Easter seals, sometimes they have
support groups for married folks with disabilities. also look for books
that help women have better self esteem.
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> [Original Message]
> From: Anthony Arnold <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Date: 2/26/2006 9:11:53 PM
> Subject: Marriage
>
> Friends,
>
>
>
> This is a copy of a message that I posted a couple of days ago on another
> listserv I belong to, it has generated some e-mail and helpful materials.
I
> thought I would pass the request for information here also, and see what I
> can receive.
>
>
>
> I don't know if any of you might be of assistance here, but I thought it
> would be worth a shot in asking. I have a friend who I have known forever
> (since I was the age of 2), and she also has Cerebral Palsy, but is able
to
> both walk and communicate. A couple of years ago, she met a guy and got
> pregnant, so they decided to get married, maybe for the best interest of
> their daughter (they're Catholic, so religion probably played a role in
the
> decision). I don't know if he has any disabilities himself (besides some
> learning disabilities). They had their daughter, and she is a lovely girl
> (and loves gifts from Anthony), but shortly after they got married, the
guy
> began treating my friend like garbage, and says it's because of her
> disability and she is a unfit mother, when I know that little girl loves
her
> mother with everything she has in her. Another friend and I were thinking
> there might be available materials we could possibly offer this couple to
> try to improve their relationship, especially partners with various
> disabilities. We searched on Google, and all we could find were ones with
> Islamic ties.
>
>
>
> Thanks,
>
> Anthony
>
> Visit my website at <http://www.anthonyarnold.net> www.anthonyarnold.net
>
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