Thanks, Bobby. I sometimes think we all were too easy on him - being
"co-dependents," I believe is the term.  We made excuses for him and cleaned
up after his messes.  It would have been far better if we had let him suffer
the consequences fully and confronted him, and maybe, just maybe he would
have gone clean.  This is a circle that goes about in my head every year.
<sigh>

As you can tell, I'm a firm believer in "tough love" when it comes to
alcohol and drugs.   Thanks for understanding.

Kat
----- Original Message -----
From: "BG Greer, PhD" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Saturday, July 13, 2002 10:19 AM
Subject: Re: Bad Anniversary This Weekend


> Kat,
>
>     I grieve with you. But as you said, the action you friend took was his
> choice. I had a similar incident "up close and personal" in my senior year
in
> college. I did not know the individual involved all that well, but she was
> beautiful, a great actress and the daughter of the dean of my college. She
> gave me a ride home and then went to her home and did the deed. It was
very
> traumatic and soon after I graduated with honors and received a "glowing"
> letter from her father! Talk about guilt. Theological beliefs aside, the
> ultimate freedom we have is to take our own lives.
>
>     At least you friend did not get in a car and kill someone else.
Grieving
> on the anniversary of traumas is a normal thing. I will pray for you.
>
> Bobby
>
> >Yes, I did go through counseling, and have learnt to put the past behind.
> >It's just that whenever the anniversary rolls around, I get a bit
depressed
> >for a few days, and it's the same for his family and other friends.  His
> >was a life truly wasted.  He would have been a brilliant writer if he had
> >not made the choices he did.
> >