it really depends on how well you know your children, as to how you handle
things. the boy would react differently to the same situation, i think. i'll
know when he reaches that age.

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Bobby Greer [SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Wednesday, July 14, 1999 12:15 PM
> To:   [log in to unmask]
> Subject:      Re: i'm back
>
> Ken,
>
>         I must say we were not as harsh on my daughter re: work. We let
> her
> do everything your daughter did except the boyfriend. She didn't seem to
> be
> able to get one. One day she came to workwith me on campus and saw all
> these nice looking boys whom she did meet in her "job" as a part time baby
> sitter. She had not even taken a college prep curriculum in high school.
> She asked me if I thought she might go to college. I set her up with some
> friends in admissions
> and she was admitted, found a eligible professor, no less, and now is what
> she always aspired to, a mommy and wife. They live in Austin TX now and he
> teaches criminology at St Edwards U.
>
> Bobby
>
> >yep, the motivation factor was my idea. i know about the vanity factor
> and
> >knew she would never want to go back to just soap and water, and nothing
> >except a comb and brush for the hair. other wise she did not have much
> fire
> >for getting out there and putting in any applications. she was content to
> >sleep in evey day, get up and go out to visit her boyfriend at his break
> >where he works, and watch tv. she would do some housework if she was
> >specifically requested and anything she desired magically appearing
> because
> >she wrote it on our families shopping list.  a good life if you can get
> it.
> >
> >   here in the atlanta area jobs are not that hard to get. i had told her
> >that she'd have to work at something while she built her massage therapy
> >clientell, but, just had to give her a little push.
> >
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: Bobby Greer [SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> >> Sent: Wednesday, July 14, 1999 10:24 AM
> >> To:   [log in to unmask]
> >> Subject:      Re: i'm back
> >>
> >> Ken,
> >>
> >>         welcome back!! As for your daughter, there is nothing like
> >> motivation to hone those job seeking skills.
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >> Bobby
> >>
> >>
> >> >just as i said i am back. although it took me more than a week to
> catch
> >> up
> >> >on what was on my desk and actually get time to reactivate the list to
> >> mail
> >> >again. having to come back is enough to discourage one from taking
> >> vacation
> >> >in the first place.
> >> >   i am still getting stiff from all the driving/riding.
> >> >   our first news is that my daughter got a job. hooray. took place 2
> >> days
> >> >after we told her that on the day in august that mom went back to work
> >> (she
> >> >is in the schools) that we would cease to purchase unnecessary items
> for
> >> >her. (ie: the little things like face powder, creams, and other
> makeup;
> >> new
> >> >clothes, she can wear what she has, etc.)  amazingly she got a job in
> two
> >> >days.
> >> >  well it is good to be back. what is happening with you guys/gals?