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How many young women really understand this...and I mean what this is actually telling them about what the men think of them...easy, casual sex, with no emotional or financial committment. They aren't even paying for it! It's free!
With regard to reason #6, how many women would make different decisions if they realized that not only are they second best, the man is still looking for his #1. That would be akin to a polygamous culture where the man's first wife is given #2...because she's not what he wants for #1.
I have spoken with men who were in relationships, even living with women, but they would still make comments about her and say, "but she's not my wife." A wife is generally given a higher regard than live-in girlfriends. I don't think a lot of women really understand that. It would prevent a lot of heartache if they did.
From the article:
Reason 1: Men can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past. The men reported that meeting women is easy: at bars, through friends, at work, and on the Internet. Though men want to become friends with a woman before becoming seriously involved, casual sex, they said, is easy to come by.
Reason 6: Men are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn't yet appeared. A soul mate, the men said, is a woman who accepts them just as they are and won't try to change them. The men said they don't want to settle for second-best. In some cases, the men even said they were living with a woman who was their version of a second-best partner. These men are continuing to hunt for the perfect soul mate.
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From: Uche Okpara <[log in to unmask]>
Date: Monday, August 27, 2007 9:41 pm
Subject: Re: Print this for your daughters!
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> I doubt that the problem is lack of wisdom on the part of young
> ladies, and
> I don't think the motives of the young men are ulterior to the young
> ladies,
> as that suggests the young ladies are completely unaware of the
> "motives" of
> the men and that whatever benefits accrue from cohabitation largely
> goes to
> the men. These adults (young ladies or men) knowingly enter this type
> of
> relationship and mutually benefit from it. Also, the fact that many
> young
> ladies agree to enter (and remain in) such relationships makes a
> statement:
> they do not want to wait for the man who values them as "the one they
> were
> waiting for."
>
> Regards,
> Uche.
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>
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> > I wasn't advocating leaving out the males. However, while we're
> teaching
> > them these values, it's better if they aren't already immersed in
> taking
> > advantage of a woman they consider "second best" while they're
> waiting for
> > their "soul mate."
> >
> > If young ladies are wise to their ulterior motives, it's better for
> them
> > and the young men because the men realize (hopefully) the ladies
> are not
> > going to be anyone's second best and will wait for the man who
> values them
> > as "the one they were waiting for."
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> > "In the days before volcanoes were invented, lava had to be hand
> carried
> > down from the mountains and poured on the sleeping villagers.
> > This took a great deal of time."
> >
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: Emilie Ngo Nguidjol <[log in to unmask]>
> > Date: Monday, August 27, 2007 5:59 pm
> > Subject: Re: Print this for your daughters!
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> >> AAM ANNUAL GENERAL MEETING - September 29, 2007. Don't
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> >> Why leave our sons behind if we want to educate children about
> >> relationships? So much of the teaching is directed to our daughters
> >> only, yet so little to our sons on this topic. Success of a marriage
> >> depends on both the man and the woman If we want to foster healthy
> >> relationships, it does not suffice to "teach young women to say
> >> "NO!!"". We must start with teaching young men what is important
> in a
> >> relationship (of any kind) and the value of respect of the OTHER (the
> >> woman, in this case).
> >>
> >> --Emilie
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> >> From: VERA R CROWELL <[log in to unmask]>
> >> Date: Monday, August 27, 2007 2:31 pm
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> >> > Very good reasons to teach young women to say "NO!!"
> >> >
> >> >
> >> http://lifestyle.msn.com/Relationships/CouplesandMarriage/ArticleLHJ.aspx?cp-documentid=1070537
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