Trish, There are many childless couples who want to adopt... Many a
child is born unwanted by their birth mother, and yet I believe, that
child is wanted somewhere by a loving couple.  Is the birth mother's
right to abort in conflict with the child's right to live, AND the
wishes of the adoptive parents?  Would you have been better off in an
adoptive family?   My sister says that having an abortion is selfish.
She has had one...  Me, I don't know, because I am a man, but it would
seem to me that mothers are just as possessive about the child they
don't want, but don't give up for adoption, as they are about the child
planned for and wanted...
Mike Collis


> Betty, Please post to C-Palsy for me.
>
>         About abortion. Giving someone a choice is not the same thing as
> being pro-abortion. It is exactly what is says - giving people a choice.
> They may chose and abortion and they may not. Only they know whether or not
> they are ready for a child. Many a child is born unwanted and has a
> miserable life and sometimes an early death due to abuse and neglect. Did we
> do them a favor? Does living a wretched battered fearful short life save
> them from anything? I was just such child. My mother didn't want and has no
> qulams about saying she wished she had aborted me. Frankly, I wish she had
> to. I might then have been born to someone who wanted me.  I would not wish
> a life of abuse on anyone. To live your around being beaten and raped and
> knowing you are not loved is a hell. It is a life you want walk away from. I
> attemped suicide at 12 becasue I was so frightened of the furious battering
> and the rape - I wanted out - even oblivion was perferable to what I had.
> Obviously I failed!! After my near death experience 3 years after that - I
> understood I had been returned for a reason. Recently, at a Pagan gathering
> of women - we discussed abortion. Several women had had them and one was
> feeling guilty. When one of the Crone's ( post menapausal women) said - she
> felt - she could could not give this child a proper life life so she
> returned the child to the Goddess for the child to be given to another. And
> she was at peace with decision becasue she had made the best decision for
> that child and its life. I understood this at a very early age.
> Pagans believe in recycling/reincarnation. There is Pagan joke - on their
> death bed - a Pagan says - Oh brother - not this again!!