Dear Elaine,

So the flute still holds music for you, magic and melodies, and yet allure
to lilt the Turtle from her Shell?  Momentarily...More welcome the brief
appearance than the none.

I would have thought we men were the ones of brief appearance who left women
languishing.  Seems you artfully managed to create an intriguing role
reversal.  When last I noticed you announced a remarkable connection between
us that you might say not only left me at a loss for words but uncertainty
of how or what, if anything, to do.  Perhaps I lacked delicacy and grace
acknowledging an heart felt gift.

Now nature tends to fill vacuums and we humans tend to fill spaces that
others leave.  In your absence whatever my preoccupation I never so much
lost my awareness of you as remained perplexed about the means of contact.
As with much of life the matters of when and how work through when
appropriate.  We can only best tend and hopefully wait for the fruit to
ripen.

From my selfish perspective I'm glad you've come forward, that you give the
opportunity to engage.  You've done no offense, just perhaps feel the
after-shocks of taking risk.  Earthquakes shake everything loose.  Your
apology is gracious and decent given your willingness to accord other's
feelings--I appreciate the "cost" of the effort.  Mine was a sleepless night
of "missiveness."  Exposure.  And almost didn't send it.  Glad I did.

Hugs,

Steve


From: "Elaine P. Kane" <[log in to unmask]>
Subject: Re: Very Confusing
Date: Thu, 28 Oct 1999 12:41:43 EDT

Hi to all of you!
    After reading Steve's last "missive" ;-) on this current topic of
being
confused, I decided it was time for me to come back out of my shell
momentarily.
    Firstly, if in anyway, I offended anyone with my tongue in cheek
sexual
comments a while back, I am truly sorry. I am of similar thinking as
Steve,
which is a frightening thought by itself! I do not view this list as a
"structured" item. I see it as a group of individuals, who share some
commonality (often through CP) and this is a forum for these people to
share
whatever and whenever they so choose.
    From years of professional and personal work in dealing with groups,
one
of the greatest lessons I got was to always remember to take what I need
from
it and disregard the rest. I believe that if the structure of the group
is
too narrow, any of us might miss something very broad in the process.
Who is
to say what words we read or type that might impact someone else in a
way not
thought of?
    I was not avoiding you, personally, Steve. I became nervous that I
might
have offended people and I chose to stick my head back into my shell.
Believe
me...... bantering and playing with you is one of the joys in my
life!!!!!
    So, there is my 2 cents worth. I really enjoy this group, even when
I
have to delete 50 messages that are not pertinent to me in some way. I
will
gladly take it all because the good that I receive from the fellowship
more
than outweighs any negative!
                                                                    <3
Elaine
PS- I have a turtle picture (what a surprise) in my kitchen that has the
following saying underneath the turtle. I pass it on to all of you.
* If we don't risk getting hurt,
we might just miss the gentleness of other people