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>> This is a question regarding paleoettiquette I suppose...... seeing the
root of all
>> evil - a refined wheat product in my house made me angry.
>> ...... Am I over reacting?  All of my relatives have been dessimated by
gluten,
>> casein and sugar
>
>I guess it all depends on what you believe is important - your
>values - and (as part of that) what you want your children and
>family members to learn through your example.
>
>I know some people whose passionate mission in this life, is to
>"spread the word" about a particular diet, or lifestyle, or
>religion, etc --  so they are willing to be known as "the crazy ones
>who ALWAYS eat such-and-such a diet" or what have you. I think that
>if it's done in a _friendly_ way, with the loads of patience
>required to answer a lot of questions over and over and over again,
>and the willingness to listen to people expressing their feelings
>about your "strange" diet, I would think that it's probably
>completely possible to make your house, and your eating habits, a
>living example of something you feel strongly about.
>
>On the other hand, if it is MORE important to you to make people
>feel comfortable, welcome and unthreatened when they come into "your
>sphere," if this is of higher value to you than teaching people
>something important about health; well then I'd imagine that you'd
>probably do better to just let them bring to your parties whichever
>foods they want, and eat what they want, and keep your own dietary
>concerns and restrictions quietly to yourself.
>
>In other words, it's all a matter of who you are, what you value,
>and what your life is "about." (to get a little "philosophical"
>here.)
>
>In my opinion, there really is no right or wrong answer about how to
>handle this.
>
to add to what Lisa say, i know there is a place where you can have both, a
place where your fellings  about refined food is aknowledged and expressed
and your guest desires respected. It comes when we want peace rather than
being right. The hardest part is to be willing to aknowledge the feelings in
your self and keep them separated from the other's action which triggered
it.
i say that,  because i can completely relate to that feeling of being
invaded
by other people choices,. Awfully codependant.
jean-claude