On Tue, 28 Oct 1997, Karl Alexis McKinnon wrote:

>         So should I bother at 275, or is it just too fat to consider?
> Please, no "true love" romance stuff, I want honest answers.  If 275 is
> repulsive without artistic talent, money, or social graces to offset it, I
> need to know before I ware my heart upon my sleave that jack-daws may peck
> at it.

Beverle had the right answer.

An anecdote:  In college I shared an apartment with a guy who
happened to weigh exactly 275 pounds.  He didn't have much money
(or he wouldn't have been sharing the fleabag apartment with me),
nor was he especially good-looking.  He was a couple of inches
taller than you.  At that time, I weighed about 230, and worried
a good deal about it.  In fact, I eventually went on a crash diet
of the sort that you can only survive when you're young, and
dropped a lot of that weight.  My friend never bothered trying to
lose a pound.

Of the two of us, he had more success getting dates.  I think he
simply telegraphed to all that his weight wasn't an issue for
*him* and that seemed to make it less an issue for everyone else,
too.  For my part, I'm sure that my insecurity about my weight
was more of an obstacle than the weight itself.

Todd Moody
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