On Sun, 4 Jan 1998 14:47:57 -0600 lfk <[log in to unmask]> writes:
>  Has anyone discovered a tactful way of dealing with
>non-believing relatives?

No, I haven't.  I have just taken a hard stand - My kid, My rules!  This
applies to everything, not just the food allergy issues.  There were lots
of things the grandparents wanted to try "just to see what she'd do" that
I put my foot down on.  Like letting her crawl at the stairs and putting
her in the car seat on the floor and seeing if she could get out (like I
need that doing 65 on the freeway!).

My MIL can't wait till she's old enough for Daddy and I to leave her with
them while we go away on vacation.  I'm afraid to leave her alone with
the kid for more than a few minutes based on the stunts she's already
pulled with feeding her and denying it when I've caught her red handed.
They also seem to have this notion that she will miraculously be able to
handle dairy once she is weaned.  I keep telling them not to bet the farm
on her outgrowing this since she reacts to such minute quantities - even
in my diet.  My hope is that someday she'll be able to tolerate small
amounts without too much reaction.

Fortunately, my family is very suppotive of the "parent's rules" concept
as that is what they used with their parents.

Sometimes, you just can't be tactful,
Kathy