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I'm guessing that divorce may be down in general is because people 
just live together.

earlier, Karen Carter, wrote:

>Amen Rhonda, Praise the Lord.  that is good news to hear.
>
>On Wed, Aug 20, 2014 at 12:59 PM, Rhonda Partain
><[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> > I was glad to see this article I got from another list I am on; 
> finally some
> > good news for a change. Divorce rates aren't as bad as we thought.
> >
> > From Townhall.com
> >
> > Flash: Christians Actually Far Less Likely to Divorce
> >
> >   Matt Barber Aug 18, 2014
> >
> >   This is a game-changer.  Talk about "an old wives' tale."
> >
> > You've heard it said that 1) 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, 2)
> > most marriages that do happen to make it are, nonetheless, unhappy, and 3)
> > Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-believers.
> >
> >   These claims, long understood to be research-based facts, never quite sat
> > right with me.  Still, admittedly, while these assertions do swim upstream
> > against the flow of both our common sense and our common experience, we
> > have, nevertheless, accepted them (present company included) as valid
> > because b, well, you know, because beaSsocial science bea&b,
> >
> >   As it turns out, your gut was right.  It's all nonsense - urban legend of
> > a sort, propagated, most likely, by the same post-moderns who, today, seek
> > to similarly undermine the God-designed institution of legitimate man-woman
> > marriage by redefining it into oblivion.
> >
> >   Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained researcher and author.
> >
> > In her recently released book, "The Good News About Marriage:
> >
> > Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce,"
> >
> > Feldhahn details groundbreaking findings from an extensive eight-year study
> > on marriage and divorce.  Among other things, her research found:
> >
> >   * The actual divorce rate has never gotten close to 50 percent.
> >
> >   * Those who attend church regularly have a significantly lower divorce
> > rate than those who don't.
> >
> >   * Most marriages are happy.
> >
> >   * Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems.
> >
> >   * Most remarriages succeed.
> >
> >   In an interview with CBN News, Feldhahn shared that, like most of us, she
> > had swallowed the anti-marriage propaganda hook, line and sinker.  She
> > believed, "that most marriages are unhappy and
> >
> > 50 percent of them end in divorce, even in the church." The CBN story
> > continues:
> >
> >   "I didn't know. ...  I've stood up on stage and said every one of these
> > wrong statistics."
> >
> >   "Then eight years ago, she asked assistant Tally Whitehead for specific
> > research on divorce for an article she was writing.
> >
> > After much digging, neither of them could find any real numbers.
> >
> >   "That kicked off a personal, years-long crusade to dig through the
> > tremendously complicated, sometimes contradictory research to find the
> > truth.
> >
> >   "First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on
> > average," the study revealed.  "Now, OK, that's still too high, but it's a
> > whole lot better than what people think it is,` Feldhahn added."
> >
> >   CBN noted, "[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what
> > researchers thought the divorce rate would become as they watched the
> > divorce numbers rising in the 1970s and early 1980s when states around the
> > nation were passing no-fault divorce laws."
> >
> >   So, in other words, and I wish I could say I long suspected this, the
> > 50-percent divorce figure is simply a myth based upon decades-old (and
> > woefully inaccurate) speculation.  As it turns out, the shelf-life for
> > marriages in the U.S.  has taken a sharp turn for the better 
> since the 1970s
> > and '80s.
> >
> >   "But the divorce rate has been dropping," Feldhahn said.
> >
> > "We've never hit those numbers [the 50 percent figure].  We've never gotten
> > close."
> >
> >   "And it's even lower among churchgoers, where a couple's chance of
> > divorcing is more likely in the single digits or teens," added CBN.
> >
> >   Additionally, the study determined that four-out-of-five marriages are
> > happy.  "That number flies in the face of the popular belief that 
> only about
> > 30 percent of marriages are happy."
> >
> >   "Most people think most marriages are just kind of `eeh` ...
> >
> > just kind of rolling along," observed Feldhahn.  "And they're 
> shocked when I
> > tell them that the actual average is 80 percent:
> >
> > 80 percent of marriages are happy. ...
> >
> >   "The studies show that if they stay married for five years, 
> that almost 80
> > percent of those will be happy five years later,"
> >
> > she concluded."
> >
> >   Still, of the study's many myth-busting revelations, the fact I 
> found most
> > interesting (and instructive) was this: Of all marriages, Christian
> > marriages prove the most durable.
> >
> >   "The Good News About Marriage" also reveals the divorce rate among those
> > active in their church is 27 to 50 percent lower than among
> > non-churchgoers," noted the report.  "Feldhahn's hope is that once people
> > learn the truth that they will spread it far and wide."
> >
> >   "This is a great chance," she said, "to stand up and say.  We were all
> > fooled.  Not anymore." Indeed, "Fool me once" ...  and all that.
> >
> >   I've covered it before.  Here's what marriage is: the God-ordained,
> > lifelong, covenantal union between man and wife, designed to provide men,
> > women and children optimal stability and overall well-being.  Marriage is
> > that biologically, spiritually and morally centered institution calculated
> > to ensure responsible procreation and perpetuate the human race.  Marriage,
> > real marriage, represents the fundamental cornerstone of any 
> healthy society
> > (any society that hopes to survive, at least).
> >
> >   Here's what marriage is not: Anything else.  In short, marriage 
> is what it
> > is.
> >
> >   It's encouraging to learn that, even under the increasing barrage of
> > no-fault divorce and sin-centric marriage re-definition artillery, this
> > cornerstone institution has, thus far, survived all efforts to destroy it.
> > It's even more encouraging to learn that, as with all things, marriages
> > built upon the rock of Christ prove stronger still.
> >
> >   I agree with Shaunti Feldhahn.  Let's spread the good news far and wide.
> >
> > -----
> >
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>
>
>--
>Karen Carter 74'
>www.lifeleadership.com/61238666
>
>I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out
>there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to find out
>there is.
>
>ABC's Of Salvation
>Admit you are a sinner. Rom 3:23
>Believe in Christ. Acts 16:31
>Confess your faith. Rom 10:9-10
>
>If you believe there is not God, than just die. For without a God you
>can do this.

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