Yeah, rescue missions don't work well for very long.  I much prefer an equal 
partnership.

Steve

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Harvey Heagy" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, May 25, 2013 17:43
Subject: Re: sighted partners


> Right, Steve.  After all, if we are successful at dealing with our own
> blindness, chances are pretty good that if you marry someone who has also
> adjusted well to it and who was the right match for you would be able to
> have a successful relationship.
>
> I'm like you.  I wouldn't want anyone who wanted me just to rescue me, or 
> do
> for me, because that usually leads to controlling me.  That kind of thing
> gets old quickly for both parties.
> Harvey
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Steve Dresser" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Saturday, May 25, 2013 12:41 PM
> Subject: Re: sighted partners
>
>
>> Well said, Harvey.  I struggled with this question a lot when I was in
>> college, and finally decided that although many things might be easier if
>> I
>> had a sighted wife, it was ultimately more important to marry someone who
>> accepted and understood me regardless of whether that person could see or
>> not.  It seemed to me that some sighted girls wanted to go out with me
>> because they saw an opportunity to rescue someone, and I definitely 
>> didn't
>> want that.  I don't think that was true in all cases, but I got tired of
>> trying to figure out when it was or wasn't true.  If I were looking for a
>> mate today, I think that would just be one of many issues I'd want to
>> resolve.  If my potential mate could see, we'd have different issues than
>> if
>> she were blind, but ultimately it would come down to how well we could
>> work
>> through whatever issues we had, and where we came out at the end of the
>> process.
>>
>> Steve
>