Hi,
Well that couple were interdependent and couldn't admit it.
Wouldn't it be nice if people just learned to do the things that could do help others with the things they can help with and go from there.
My mother-in-law didn't want my husband to marry me because she wanted someone to take care of him.
Never mind that he had his Master's Degree, lived in his own apartment, did some minimal cooking and laundry.
I guess since I am totally blind she didn't think I would be able to cook. Well I surprised her.
She did think it was terrible when our daughter was in the hospital because I wouldn't go home to cook supper for him.
I told her my place was with our daughter who was multiply-handicapped. I stayed right at the hospital with Monica.
Child care was my responsibility. That was fine with me.
I did it or arranged for someone else to do it.
This is what worked for us.
My husband was lucky enough to have a good job and just retired after thirty years. He has been retired about 5 years now.
We dealt with privacy by having separate checking accounts. I am his account but have never used it.
I have very close friends write checks for me.
I just starting using a debit card in March.
We just need to work together and not think about who does more in a relationship.
There are exceptions if someone can do more than they do.
I never planned to get married but I didn't think about whether the person was blind or sighted.
I think this should be a secondary consideration.
Colleen Roth



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From: Phil Scovell <[log in to unmask]>
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Date: Thursday, May 30, 2013 8:54 pm
Subject: Re: sighted wife

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> What a story.  You can't make stuff like that up, as they say.
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> Phil.
> K0NX
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> From: "Howard Kaufman" <[log in to unmask]>
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> Sent: Thursday, May 30, 2013 5:17 PM
> Subject: Re: sighted wife
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> >    This discussion reminds me of an absolutely true story.
> >
> > Two friends of mine were in the middle of a dramatic divorce.  She was in 
> > a
> > wheelchair, and he was blind.  he was running around putting stuff up 
> > where
> > she couldn't reach it, and she was crawling around hiding stuff where he
> > couldn't find it.  The biggest fight they had separating their stuff, was
> > the scale.  She couldn't stand on it without his help, and he couldn't 
> > read
> > it with out her help.  They fought over trying to stick the other person
> > with the scale.
> >
> > I asked her a couple of years later, why she kept his last name?  She said
> > "because that's all of that son-of-a-bitches that I could keep"!!!
> >