Hi;
Just so folks don't feel alone, moved to this house four years ago. 
That spring got in contact with most radio clubs and said I would love 
help with a vertical or dipole.  Didn't get much reply.  Took a cab to 
one of the larger clubs and the president drove me home and said to his 
friends that he would catch up with them for coffee after he dropped me 
off.  Wondered why I wasn't invited to the party.  He also suggested 
that there was a club much closer to my home that I should check out. 
Would that have happened to a new potential non disabled member?
Checked out the closer club and they did help me put up a hf9v in 2010. 
  They were going to stop back and finish the job. 18 months later 
nothing and I keep going to meetings and they keep saying one of these 
days.  Initially the antenna had to come down to be re-tuned.  It 
resonates quite nicely on 27 MHz.  There were three people working on 
the job, one had never touched an antenna in her life, on was also new 
and one was the president who is a ve but has no home station.
As for arr, back in the 1980s there was a local ham store that would put 
up antennas for a price.  It was wonderful, no need to beg. 
Unfortunately I had unbelievable tvi problems.  One neighbor threatened 
legal action.  I contacted arrl and asked if they had anyone in the area 
who might help put up something less likely to interfere.  They sent 
over a wonderful guy that actually worked with my dad 20 years ago only 
problem was he was in his 80s.  Thinking back he could have taught me a 
lot even if nobody climbed.
Contacted arrl again when I moved to this qth in 2008 and got a reply 
that the person in charge of this area knew just where I lived because 
he had grandparents in the area.  Sounded very hopeful but that was the 
last I heard.
I guess my conclusion after rambling is if there is a competent-ant ham! 
store in the area who will do antenna work its worth every penny.  Club 
folks, especially older ones might be very helpful in advising what to 
put up.  I went through two miniquads each lasted about a year.  Then 
there were my adventures with the r8.  Durable is just as important as 
performance.
Also finding eager helpers is an art.  Some folks seem to be very good 
at and others such as yours truly are hopeless.  Maybe handihams should 
teach a course in how best to talk your club into helping?  They have 
suggested lots of food and beer and make sure you have every imaginable 
part but I think there may be more to it.
-- 
richard