in your head karim. 

ABDOUKARIM SANNEH <[log in to unmask]> wrote:  Haruna, Ginny et al,
Just beyond my cranium, this forum is reduce to self proclaim righteousness so do I don't have a taste and my delete key is properly functioning.

Haruna Darbo wrote:
Suntou,

You like stories don't you? I thought you were busy with your studies. If 
you have taken up a position as marriage counsellor, we are not interested.

Now to the extent your story is accurate and because you find it valuable to 
share it with us, I have one problem with your actions. Listen carefully.

As the record keeper of an organisation, you have a fiduciary responsibility 
to maintain the integrity of the records and the privacy of the members of 
your organisation.

1. You ought not tell us what information you have about anyone.
2. You ought not tell us what the nature of your records are.
3. You should not have given information of any member of your organisation 
to anyone UNLESS they have committed a crime against other and the provision 
of such information is to law enforcement in their efforts to solve the crime 
and render justice.
4. In your storied case, you should not have given the lady's number to this 
knucklehead even if he flipped sommersaults.
5. I don't wanna hear what you think the Qur'an says about your behaviour. I 
already know what the Qur'an says. You should now apologise to this lady 
profusely, and to the extent the problem gets out of hand, you have a culpable 
part to play in it.

Now that you have committed a cardinal sin, what you should do to diffuse 
the tension is to report the harassment of this lady to authorities in her 
jurisdiction and her husband in order that she may regain part of her security 
and reassurance. She has been violated, your informing her that you gave her 
phone number to someone (AFTER THE FACT) is no act of consideration. You had 
breached the trust of the lady and indeed of the organisation. You should now 
return the organisation's records and relieve yourself of the custodial and 
fiduciary responsibility. Some acts do not deserve a second chance.

Suntou, do you play the Kora????

Masoud. MQJGDT. Darbo. Al Mu'Umin. Just when I think you're listening to my 
counsel, you go off the deep end. New Gambians! I take no prisoners. Innahu 
huwa yubdi'U Wayu Ead, wa huwal Khafoorul wadood. Thul arshil majeed, fa-Aaalun 
Lima Ureed. Hal Ataika hadeesul khasiah, wajoo-hun yawma-ithin Naa-emah. 
Lisa'Ayihaa raadiya............. Don't tell us to be careful of your errors and 
omissions. We would not do what you did. Let us cleanse ourselves before we 
attempt to counsel others in matters of life.


In a message dated 2/10/2008 6:02:16 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, 
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i was disappointed yesterday after i received a complaint from a Gambian 
brother in our city. The issue involved a married sister whose husband is in the 
Gambia whilst she is in England. I am the record keeper of the Gambia 
association we have in the city. i have all the contact details of every single 
member man or woman. Last month, a brother LT ,in his forties called me to get a 
number of the married sister. remember here this brother is living with his 
wife in our city as well. he requested me to pass the phone number of the 
sister to him. i enquire as to why he need the phone number? his answer was 
,well he and the sister share the same family name and that he want them to be 
brother and sister. i was hesitant to pass the number. he enquire whether i don 
't trust him having the number? i said it is not about that but because i 
shouldn't pass on any body's information without their prior approvals. he said 
sadly ,''so now there is no trust even in family ties?'' i said
OK, let me hand you the number and i will contact her to tell her about your 
request.
i gave him the number. i later called the lady to inform her about the 
issue.she was happy that some one wish to have a family relation with her which is 
rare she said. that was the last time i have any thing to do with the 
situation. 
yesterday afternoon whilst i was having my rest,my mobile phone rang. an 
older Gambian brother was on the phone his name is kk. me and kk talk regularly 
about Gambian issues. but this time it is not the usual discussions.he was 
reporting LT the KOTOKE who took the number from me. LT is pestering this lady 
.he wanted them to have an affair. the lady said she ''tried every thing to 
discourage the LT politely but he couldn't stop.'' from being brother and 
sister to being lovers. how sad!!
this is the same kotoke who took the number from me ,giving the most 
honourable reason. i was fooled by a bad koteke. the lady said that LT is the 
second Gambian brother pestering her. the other one is a marabout TJ who is 
married to an Indian lady. the sad thing is ,both this brothers are married and 
living with their wife's yet they are pestering a married woman who is so 
honourable she decline their infidelity offers out of rest for her husband and her 
religion. now the pestering is so bad the sister cannot hide the matter any 
more. i was called to discuss ways in stopping the nuance pestering by the two 
bad behave brothers (LT and TJ) . our plan was to tell the sister ,if any 
one of this fools approach you ,tell them you will call the police and that she 
will inform me and the caller KK to take up the issue.

why should this married men be following a respectable Gambian sister who 
frankly told them that she is married and that she is not interested in 
adultery.yet this stupid fools cannot leave her alone. the sister advice the KK who 
called me not to discuss the matter with this LT and TJ ,she said ''they may 
spoil her name and reputation. and their wife's may attack her''. i was 
shocked and sad at the behaviour of this grown ash koteke's who cannot learn to 
behave even after the ripe age of 41. when will such men grow up? be careful 
guys .some explanations are only a smoke screen. i can bring up the Islamic 
injunctions here but i don't wish to bore any one. 

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