Kendall,
I think that the woman standing up for herself is exactly what was
missing here, at least as far as the article reported. While I think
the behavior of her co-workers was really unexcuseable, I don't see
her standing up and saying what she needed. In other words, it seems
to me like she was passive and let them do/say things to her and then
expected everything to just be fine or go away, when in fact, we all
know that typically if you ignore something it is construed as
acceptance and will continue and escalate. I think how she was
treated was wrong and it should no have happened. But I also don't
think she should be suing. If she didn't get along with the people
she worked with and didn't like it there, find another job. If she
didn't like how she was made fun of at social events, don't go. No
boss can force you to go to after hours social events. No where do
they comment in the article about her job performance and how she was
treated while on the clock seemed mostly normal.
Linda M.
(thought I better use a last initial so we all don't get confused
btw. Linda Walker and myself!)
On Oct 31, 2007, at 2:41 PM, Kendall D. Corbett wrote:
> Linda,
>
> There is a lot of different AT available for people with
> disabilities to
> participate in a lot of sports. I'd hope that the company would
> consider
> activities that can include everyone, whether it's bowling, bridge,
> backgammon, or whatever. I don't think it rises to the level of
> discrimination. The woman who filed the complaint could have been
> proactive
> and said "I'm not much of a bowler, but I enjoy 'X' " or "I'll be
> the score
> keeper and beer drinker...." As you said, those of us with
> disabilities
> need to be confident and assertive enough to stand up for
> ourselves. I
> don't advocate punching someone in the nose to solve problems, but
> we do
> need to be able to say "this is who I am, and what works for me."
>
> On Oct 31, 2007 12:29 PM, Linda Walker <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
>> I am able bodied but I do know that thalidomide was a totally
>> preventable and horrific limb deformity birth defect. I find being
>> asked to bowl while missing fingers incredibly harsh and cruel. Had
>> the company said come and join us for the fun, keep score, drink some
>> beer, and root for the team that would be different. Or if they
>> leveled the playing field by taping the other members fingers
>> together and then seeing who was really last that would be ok with me
>> too. Case does go bowling and they have a metal contraption that he
>> sets the ball in and it automatically rolls down the lane. If she had
>> used that that might be ok as well. Where is the sense of fairness in
>> this? Don't people use handicapping in golf etc to even the
>> playing field.
>>
>> At 12:43 AM 10/31/2007, you wrote:
>>> On Wednesday 31 October 2007 02:05:02 kat wrote:
>>>> Thanks for setting us straight, Deri! Now you've got me feeling
>>>> sick
>>>> that a disabled person can use her disability to "beat the system."
>> Ugh!
>>>> Gives the rest of us a bad name.
>>>>
>>>> Kat
>>>>
>>>
>>> Hi Kat,
>>>
>>> I do not know if I'm right, its just that I realised while reading
>>> that if you
>>> take away the disability element the things she describes happen
>>> to many,
>>> many people, who do not have the opportunity to sue.
>>>
>>> Also, I realised that it seems the whole case revolves around her
>> disability,
>>> the article says she is actually suing the company for sexual
>>> harrassment
>>> (not discrimination - probably because all her cited instances of
>>> discrimination occurred outside work in a social setting).
>>>
>>> Cheers
>>>
>>> Deri
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>
>
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>
>
> Kendall
>
> An unreasonable man (but my wife says that's redundant!)
>
> The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
> persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all
> progress
> depends on the unreasonable man.
>
> -George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950
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