Certainly am doing that and working it through. I've actually tweaked the
Contract to strengthen what I say and my desire that she signs this as from
September (preferably before she leaves for holiday abroad on Friday
afternoon) should start to exercise my right as employer. She's "really
milking it now", as is sometimes said over here.
Thanks for all your support over there.
--
Carol
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----- Original Message -----
From: "Brad D" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2007 10:15 PM
Subject: Re: WHAT'S GOING ON WITH ME?
> Carol,
>
> Document your grace in the situation and her abuses of it, and start
> looking for replacement :). You don't need the added stress to your life.
> Pray how God would have you dissolve the situation and follow his lead and
> you'll be alright.
>
> Brad
>
>
>
> At 09:55 AM 8/18/2007, you wrote:
>>Hi all,
>>
>>I'm just writing to share a little bit of what's happening here and why
>>the stress lines have been rising in the last few days. I need you to
>>pray now because things are moving on and, frankly, I think this lady may
>>have to be out of my life sooner rather than later!
>>
>>I am privileged to have some help with daily tasks that I cannot do for
>>myself and the hours that I am given (in terms of money to pay for such
>>help) are generous. In fact, for the first time in my life, I can
>>sometimes get out and really enjoy myself and not just stick to the urgent
>>jobs that must be done the next time I get some sighted help! Anyway, I
>>employed two ladies for a few hours each week to help me with this earlier
>>on this year. For one, who has three children, it has been a joy and no
>>problem to keep her children well cared for while she is with me on a
>>regular basis. For the other, who has a daughter of seven, it has been a
>>real problem, not just for me but for both of us and is becoming a bit of
>>a nightmare for me. Basically, this particular lady is not only needing to
>>look after her daughter but is wanting all that she wants in life as well,
>>and that includes squash games and trips to the gym which must fit my
>>schedule. Well, I worked really hard with her in the months before the
>>Summer break, as I had discovered that she was taking time out to care for
>>her daughter and not finding an alternative. I made a slight alteration
>>to the contract she had to sign, agreeing some flexibility in the Summer,
>>but she has taken me rather for granted and not given anywhere near the
>>time she should and she has persistently requested a start or end time to
>>fit around her life. Well, the other person who works for me is sick
>>following surgery and I'm left with no help. Having worked through the
>>hours that this lady has taken from me, I have firmly concluded that this
>>has to stop. She does have a father for the young girl and they live
>>together, supposedly, as a happy family; and she has his sister with whom
>>she apparently gets on extremely well. In addition there's an older son
>>by Dad's first marriage and he comes over sometimes to be with them and
>>look after the little girl when it suits them. OK, so she is not totally
>>without help, though perhaps she needs more. The problem is that she's
>>not taking up that help, or possibly not even asking for it, because she
>>wants to be home when she wants to be home with her daughter and to still
>>keep a job, on her terms.
>>
>>Over the past few days I have made alteration to her contract to make it
>>absolutely clear what she can and cannot do if she wishes to continue to
>>be employed by me. I have endeavoured to be fair and caring over the past
>>many months and have given, as I say, in excess of 15 hours, plus a week's
>>paid holiday whilst I was away and she has taken two weeks' off. Now,
>>when you only employ a couple of people, that gets difficult and totally
>>unworkable, especially as the job is to meet my needs (much more than my
>>wants) and includes many things that I cannot manage myself. Anyway, I
>>had to call her today because the other person will not be able to come in
>>this week and she said, "Well, I'll try to make one day," when I am
>>supposed to have hours on four different days by the two ladies and they
>>know I hope they will cover, at least to some extent, for one another's
>>sickness and holiday. I have indicated that I need some firm answer from
>>her in the next day or so and also that I would like her to take a look at
>>the new contract over the next few days and sign this before she goes off
>>on holiday. (She's away for about eleven days). I think it is very
>>likely that she will not want to sign the contract and/or that it could
>>get a bit difficult all round. (I learned through a round about route
>>after employing her and not receiving a reference that she took her only
>>other employer to Court some years ago and lost the case because she
>>clearly wanted to work her own hours and he needed full-time employment.
>>It seems she is still acting in the same manner.)
>>
>>Anyway, I've probably given you ample to know what's going on and I just
>>ask for wisdom and that God will continue to help me in all my dealings
>>with her.
>>
>>--
>>Carol
>>
>>-- Lies imprison; truth frees. The Son frees indeed as the light of His
>>truth shines in the darkness of our lies. Jesus knows the geography of our
>>souls,
>>the origin of our lies, the whole path to deliverance and freedom. --
>>Dwight A. Clough, Discoveries mailing list
>>http://six.pairlist.net/mailman/listinfo/discoveries
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