I surely have missed your support while my computer was being repaired and I
had to be away from your fellowship. My son has been giving me trouble as
well. I was so depressed feeling I must have done something terrebly wrong
with regard to his bringing up. I felt so isolated and alone during those
times. I just don't know how all will work out. I surely hope it does for
all our children. God is the only one who can save them from the
destruction they have created for themselves.
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, November 25, 2006 5:42 PM
Subject: Re: chris
> Phil,
> Believe me, I understand. Chris is always blaming someone else, or
> changing his story. He can't even keep his stories straight, his lies get
> so tangled up. As much as I love him, I still get a knot in the pit of my
> stomach when I"m around him. Last Tuesday, when he let us know that he
> might be getting evicted, he hintted at the possibility of staying here
> for a bit and I can't believe how all the old feelings and fears came
> rushing back. Greg picked up his stuff today, but he is going to stay
> with a friend. We've told him that it would be better for him if he
> stayed in Bangor because they have a bus system, since Chris doesn't have
> a car, but in truth, it is better for us if he doesn't come home.
> Kathy
>
>
>
> At 01:32 PM 11/25/2006, you wrote:
>>Kathy,
>>
>>I am learning I still have anger, for example, and where it is coming
>>from.
>>I am learning that there isn't anything that can be done but praying for
>>Gretchen. I am learning to stop trying to control the situation, since I
>>can't any way, and because she is an adult, and just to let God do the
>>work.
>>I try and talk with her when I can because in this case, she has children
>>but she rarely has time to talk. She rarely has time for her children.
>>She
>>got mad at us on Thanksgiving, something that is very common, and she
>>stayed
>>at her boyfriend's house even though her 11 year old son begged her to
>>spend
>>Thanksgiving with us as a family. It is better that way for us because
>>Gretchen has screwed up so many times at Easter, Thanksgiving, and
>>Christmas, not to mention birthdays, that if I had my choice, I would
>>prefer
>>she stay away on those days. She blamed her mom this time because Sandy
>>tried getting her to come home from her boyfriends to assist in putting
>>the
>>dinner together. It works well for Gretchen to get mad, blame somebody
>>else, and that way she can do what she was planning on doing in the first
>>place.
>>
>>Phil.
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