Thanks for the update kathy sounds good maybe he just wants his own space.  If he is looking for the path of least resistance he will be surprised if he goes into the army.  He will have to say yes sir no sir no arguements of disobeying there.  But it might be the very thing to help him too.  I am thinking he is ok and just wants to be a grown up.  

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Can you imagine what a scarcity of news there would be If everybody obeyed
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Karen Carter  '74
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From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]>
> Hi guys,
> 	Well, here's the latest on Chris.  It's really a mixed bag of sorts, 
> but it's what I'm working with.
> 
> 	He received his placement from the Life program yesterday.  He is in 
> a two bedroom apartment, shared with another guy, his girlfriend and 
> a baby.  Chris doesn't think that the director of the program knows 
> about the girl friend and baby, but he doesn't want to say anything 
> for fear of looking like a "snitch," and making for an even more 
> uncomfortable living situation.  When I commented to him that it 
> didn't sound like his living situation had improved much, he said, 
> "well, at least they aren't doing drugs."  We are thinking about 
> taking it upon ourselves to call the director of the program next 
> week just to give him a heads up about the situation, and leave it at that.
> 	Chris is with Greg this morning to cheer Caleb on in his first 
> wrestling match.  Greg Picked Chris up this morning from his new 
> apartment and brought him back here for breakfast.  I offered to do 
> Chris's laundry and he took me up on the offer, so I'm staying home 
> to take care of that.  I don't mind though.  It may give Greg and 
> Chris some guy time together.  Chris and I find it much easier to 
> talk to each other.  If I were there, I just don't think that Chris 
> would get the fatherly attention that he really needs.  I have a hard 
> time keeping quiet sometimes.  I know, that may seem hard to 
> believe!!  GRIN!  But, its true.  After the meet, Greg is going with 
> Chris over to Nicki's parents' house to pick up the rest of his 
> things and move them to his new apartment.
> 	The vice principal called yesterday morning and Chris has 
> exceeded  the amount of detensions andsuspensions allowed.  The vice 
> principal invited us to a meeting about Chris on Monday morning, 
> which Chris has begged us not to attend.  I've decided to honor 
> Chris's request that I not show up, but I will talk to the vice 
> principal privately either before or after the meeting.  I have to 
> agree with Chris that our showing up would be pretty pointless 
> anyway.  It's hard to stay home because we are concerned parents, but 
> Chris is 18 now and our showing up isn't going to change his self 
> motivation any.  He has to do that himself.  If he feels that 
> strongly about our not attending, it may set our fragile relationship 
> back a pace and it just isn't worth that.
> 	This life program that he is involved with now assures Chris that 
> they can help  him still get his G.E.D. and get into the army at 
> least.  Chris is still just looking for the path of least resistance 
> and it is a waste of breath to point out that a little hard work 
> never hurt anybody.
> 	In his attitude, Chris seems a bit depressed to me.  He and Nicki 
> are still going together.  Rats!!  Oh well.  We're still just having 
> to take life one day at a time, as does everybody.
> God bless,
> Kathy