No Brad,
	I have already settled in my mind that I will never say, "I told you 
so."  That wouldn't get me any place or move the relationship 
forward.  What I do wonder though is, will there ever be a place to 
be able to talk to him about his manipulative behavior toward us?  At 
times, I wish that I could tell him two things.

1.  I wish that I could tell him that we love him no matter 
what.  That doesn't mean that we like what he does, or that we will 
support his decisions, for example, moving in with his girl friends 
family, but we will always love him.

2.  I wish that I could tell him that it hurts to be treated in a 
manipulative way.  Chris is nice to us when he wants something.  He's 
a first class charmer, but then, when he has no use for us, we don't 
even hear from him at all.  I feel so used.  It feels like he is 
trying to play at my heart strings for all they are worth.  It feels 
like he'd be happy to just wring me dry and then move on to some new victim.

	I am in constant prayer about, the next time he calls.  I constanly 
am praying that I'll be Christ like in my manner and not start saying 
what, I as a human want to say.  I constantly pray about this because 
his calls come out of the blue.  I always want to be prepared.  I did 
tell Chris that I love him today, even though I had figured out by 
the end of the call that the only reason that he was calling at all 
was to see if he had received his replacement license yet.  The part 
that I wonder about is the second point.  Would it do any good to try 
to address the fact that we just don't like feeling manipulated all 
the time?  I mean, I struggle with, if I don't say anything about it, 
will he just think he's really smart and he has us wrapped around his 
finger?  I kind of want him to know that we know what he is doing, 
but that we are choosing to respond in a loving rather than vengeful 
way anyway.  But, if I let him know this, will it just make him 
defensive and set our relationship back even further?  I guess that 
there is some pride in me that doesn't want him to get away with 
letting him think that he's taking us for a ride and yet, I wonder 
if, being humble and loving is just letting him go ahead and think 
that as long as I know that it isn't true.
	Is this making sense?     This is one of those times that I feel 
like I'm being very unclear and saying a whole lot of nothing, so if 
you need to ask clarifying questions, go ahead.  As you can see, my 
brane is running in circles and I am not thinking quite straight on 
this point yet.
Sign me,
confused in Maine